mad at sil

AZwife7

So lately I have been just kinda angry and my new frustration is directed toward SIL.  First of all, I truly love her and she is a wonderful, kind person.  HOWEVER...

 They tried over a year with their first and finally decided to go the doctor.  Well, she had been having 45 day plus cycles all along so I don't know why they didn't go sooner.

One cycle of clomid later and she is pg.  Now she is due with her third this week and she still talks about how hard they had to try to get pregnant the first time.

I get so mad because she acts sympathetic to our situation, and yet she brings this up all the time how hard they tried.

I'm sorry, but I feel she should have been smarter and realized her cycles were too long and consulted a doctor earlier.  Especially since one cycle of clomid fixed the problem.

She has all these beautiful children and had no troubles conceiving the second two, so why is she still looking for attention 6 years later?!

albjag

I can understand how you're feeling- 

Can you take a break from her for a bit?  Why don't you do something nice for yourself- completely indulgent and spoil yourself.  I hope your time comes soon and you're posting about your BFP soon. ((hugs))

I hate how IF makes us feel. 

newsbaby

Uggghhh GRRRRR I know how you feel! 

Sunshine05

I'm right there with you.  I've been frustrated with my SIL who has four kids 5 & under.  By each of their 1st b-days, she's known she was pg again.  It is a bit ridiculous.  It gets hard but I love the kids and her so I deal with it. 

Well, I guess I was having an extra hard time with it since I found out my cousin is expecting and will be giving my grandparents who raised me their first great-grandchild.  That was supposed to be me... four years ago!  He just got married and bam, they're pregnant!  Ugh. 

Anyway, that pushed me over the edge and I snapped at her and it got pretty ugly.  We haven't spoken since Labor Day.  I am really nervous about Thanksgiving since I know she'll be there and this will be the first we see/talk to each other since "the incident." 

I can't really offer you any advice since I'm in the midst of not knowing what to do myself except for roll over and pretend to be okay with her.  I just wanted to sympathize with you and let you know you're not alone. 

2becomes3

Ugh...boy do I understand!  My SIL tried for a year, went to the doctor, did 2 failed cycles of clomid, and then got a surprise BFP after vacation.  So along with "understanding" what I'm going through, she also suggested not stressing and going on vacation.  I want to throat punch her, so I stopped talking to her about our struggles after all of that.  I think it bothers her actually, because when she asks how things are going I just say "good".

AZwife7

2becomes3:

Ugh...boy do I understand!  My SIL tried for a year, went to the doctor, did 2 failed cycles of clomid, and then got a surprise BFP after vacation.  So along with "understanding" what I'm going through, she also suggested not stressing and going on vacation.  I want to throat punch her, so I stopped talking to her about our struggles after all of that.  I think it bothers her actually, because when she asks how things are going I just say "good".

 

I wish someone had told me to just relax and go on vacation - I didn't realize that's all I need to do!  Well now that I know how it works let me plan that vacation...  GRRRR!