Am I overreacting?

NerdBride_D&D

My mom and I have an odd relationship. She was not the best mom when I was growing up, although now she is a much better person and she is great with DS. I have posted about her before. I have forgiven her, but some things she does with DS strike a nerve that make me want to shield him.

She calls him a lluron, which is crybaby in Spanish. "Stop being such a lluron," kind of a thing. DS didn't get to nap today because we were at my sister's house and there was too much going on for him to sleep. So he was cranky and upset. And my mom takes his binkie from him because she feels he is too old, so he was mad that he couldn't have his bink to go to sleep with (yes, I kept taking it back from her and giving it to him when I caught her doing it). So his reaction is to be fussy. She kept calling him a lluron and telling him to stop, that's not acceptable. It annoys the eff out of me. At one point she caught me giving her the evil eye and said, "Well he is a lluron, he won't stop that nonsense!" I wanted to tell her that she's a biitch but we don't tell her nonstop that she's such a biitch.

Other than that, she was ok today. I was just really mad and didn't know if I should make something out of it or not. Because of our history, I sometimes react a lot more strongly than is necessary to her annoying habits. WDYT? 

J+O

She's calling him a crybaby... over and over when it obviously makes you upset.  I don't think it's okay. 

Mrs.McLovin

You are the parent and get to deicde when he is too old for the bink. And if any other person called your child a crybaby over and over again, you probably would have said STFU (perhaps more polietly).

Tell your mom to butt the heck out of the parenting decisions and to stop with the name calling.

Krissi~n~Justin

I"d be more angry by the fact that she keeps doing something to your son that she knows is making you upset...

ougrad1

I think that you handled it like the adult.  Good for you!  Perhaps next time, she'll take the hints you gave her today. 

funchicken

Calmly tell her that you don't like it when she calls him that the next time it happens. 

NerdBride_D&D

Some days everything she does drives me up a wall, and today was like that, but this was the only thing that really struck me as an OK thing to be annoyed about. It's hard to explain. I don't want to go off on her for something unless she really deserves it, because she is really sensitive. But at the same time, that means I put up with a ton because you can't tell her anything without her falling apart... and sometimes I want to tell her a lot about stupid things that aren't worth fighting about.

I don't know what to say to her. She thinks I am such a hippy because I tell her how I feel about things. She will listen, but roll her eyes kind of. Part of it is a cultural thing I think. It is a very "white" thing for me to tell her not to do something because it hurts my feelings. I hope this is coming off right, and not racist, because that's not how I mean it. The way I was raised, you aren't supposed to talk about how you feel unless you are weak.

Anyway, if you were in my shoes, what would you tell your mother?

NerdBride_D&D

mrszee2b:

Calmly tell her that you don't like it when she calls him that the next time it happens. 

I've done that, and she still calls him a lluron. I need something more... I don't know, too obvious to ignore I guess? 

engaged678

NerdBride_D&D:

mrszee2b:

Calmly tell her that you don't like it when she calls him that the next time it happens. 

I've done that, and she still calls him a lluron. I need something more... I don't know, too obvious to ignore I guess? 

Start calling her a bad name when she's around and namecalling DS.
Keep it up until she gets the point.
You are the mother. Your son can have his binky until you say he can't.  Grandma can butt the eff out because it's her actions that are making him angry.  He doesn't understand enough to know how to hold his emotions, especially when provoked and tired. She does.

GL!

ameliahedlund

Slap her and then tell her to stop being such a lluron.  Lluron.