I'm not sure I'm ready...

emiliemetcalf

Tomorrow night my MIL is coming over at 6 so that my DH and I can go on a date.  I've left Tess with her before, but always during the day and she always just feeds her until she falls asleep.  (Tess is usually awake for about 30-45 minutes after eating and then falls asleep for a nap).  I feel like I have worked so hard on getting Tess into a good bedtime routine, and I know my MIL won't do it that way.   I know its just one night, but I'm still feeling anxious about it.  I wanted to wait until Tess was already asleep to go out, because she's usually in bed by 8:15, but DH says that its not a "real" date if we go out after dinner.  (He also didn't want to be the one to plan the date, but that's another issue.)

Sorry this turned out to be so long, but I tried to explain how I felt to my DH and he just thought I was being a neurotic mommy.  Am I crazy for being anxious about this?

jewelsonu

Not at all.  Ethan goes to daycare everyday and I have no problem leaving him.  My mom watched him while dh and I went to a movie and I was nervous the whole time. I know it's crazy and I should be comfortable with my mom but it's just taht it was someone new watching him.  He was 6 months when she watched him.  I wouldn't be able to relax at all if dh's mom watched him.

KonnubialKat

No, I would be just as worried.  You're concerned that the schedule you've worked so hard to establish will not be followed. 

DH is probably not the most sympathetic ear since it's his mother.  For some people,  DHs and MILs alike, schedules and routines aren't that important. 

If it would make you feel any better, write out a timeline for her so there's no question.  What she decides to do is out of your control, but at least you've done what you can to make it really easy for her to follow your routine.  Don't let it interfere with your evening though.  Go out and enjoy yourself!

MelissaSue81

Nah. its okay.. I work nights, so I had to give up bedtime control pretty early.. but still like to be the one to put her to bed and if its not me I SO prefer my DH to be the one to put her to bed. In fact it still irks me the nights when MIL puts Eve to bed before DH gets home. (DH usually gets home right around bedtime, why can't she wait for him?)

abba916

I dont think you are being neurotic at all...I agree with PP- write out the schedule and although you cant force her to do anything- at least you know you told her what your wishes are...

Go out and Enjoy your night with your husband!!