Feeling disconnected from baby

July-Love-05

Ugh. I feel so disconnected from this baby. From the moment I POAS I felt something was wrong. I started spotting a little brown a few weeks ago and it started in to watery bloody mucus as the days went on. I went to the dr. and had a sono and the baby looked ok. As the days went on I started to bleed more, so I went to the ER. There they found I had a Subchorionic Hematoma?.at blood clot next to the baby?s sack. For some reason, I just can?t allow myself to feel a strong love for the baby, like my pregnancy is not real. With DS it took about a year to get KU?d and it only took 2 cycles this time. I don?t know what to do to change my feelings and fears so I can grow close to my unborn child.

CrysBo79

It has taken me awhile to feel connected myself.  After seeing the baby today I feel so much better.  Hopefully as time goes by and you are spotting free, you will get closer!

July-Love-05

I hope so. I did get excited after I saw the little heartbeat, but then it fades. I think that I might just be down in sprits. I have been on bed rest for a week and a half and that is not an easy task with a toddler!

Dec31stBride

Sounds like you're just trying to protect yourself because you're worried you'll lose the baby. As things progress, I'm sure you'll start to feel better!

I felt like crap at 7wks, still kind of do, so its often tough to feel "excited", but I know it will come with time (and hopefully we'll feel better soon!) 

July-Love-05

Dec31 I think you are right...and I feel like crap too. I just sleep when I can. I can't eat either. Tomorrow we should find out more. I pray that everything cleared up on it's own and we don't have a long road ahead of us.

heatouel85

don't worry! things like hearing the heartbeat, seeing baby move on an u/s, feeling baby's kicks, and picking out names are all things that will make your pregnancy more "real" and more "exciting". best wishes

snickybugg

July-Love-05:

Ugh. I feel so disconnected from this baby. From the moment I POAS I felt something was wrong. I started spotting a little brown a few weeks ago and it started in to watery bloody mucus as the days went on. I went to the dr. and had a sono and the baby looked ok. As the days went on I started to bleed more, so I went to the ER. There they found I had a Subchorionic Hematoma?.at blood clot next to the baby?s sack. For some reason, I just can?t allow myself to feel a strong love for the baby, like my pregnancy is not real. With DS it took about a year to get KU?d and it only took 2 cycles this time. I don?t know what to do to change my feelings and fears so I can grow close to my unborn child.

I feel the same way at times. I mean, I forget sometimes I'm pregnant and then I'm like "WOW, this is great" but then I get a knock in my stomach about something going wrong. My first U/S is this coming Friday and I've waited 7wks for this apt! I can't wait. We wanted to tell the MIL about the pregnancy this Saturday but we're thinking about waiting till Thanksgiving Day to do it. I just keep putting it off for some reason. I think I will know when the right time is once I go to the doc. But yea, you aren't alone!

LuaBear

Don't get me wrong, I'm extremely excited for this baby!  I can't wait to be a mother, but I can't say that I feel "connected".  I've seen it on the ultrasound and heard the heartbeat, but I think it will take me feeling the movement to really process that it's inside of me and to feel connected to it.  Right now it kind of feels like I'm watching someone else's baby on tv!  But, that's ok.  I just need a little more to connect and that will happen when the time comes!