when is the perfect age to have a baby?

megann831

Someone below posted about 35 being the advanced age, I'm 27, DH is 28, he was a little worried that we're too young.  Although we have a house and have been married for 3 1/2 years, most of our friends are still single or dating someone.

What do you think is the ideal age to have a baby?

I think, as long as you have your ducks in a row, 25 would be good to start.  You're done with school, had a few years of fun, and can have a few kids and be done by 30 if you want. 

beanie00914

I really dont think age matters as much as your situation... I am 23 and DH is 25, we both have good jobs, family support, done with school and all that jazz...

Mrs.ABC

When you're ready.

sadiwest

IMO no one can answer that but you....

I believe it's when you're ready...Whatever age that is.

StrawberryAlarmClock

I don't think there's a number. I agree with your last paragraph, though. As long as you can provide a stable home and you are physically healthy enough to carry and care for the child, you're good to go.

 

gingerfamily

Who is anyone to say what the right age is? 

 

TiffanyClark

I dont think there is a "good" age. I think whenever you and your DH or SO are ready, you should start, granted that you are mature and stable enough to take care of a baby.

Smootchy

Of course it's different for everyone.  I'm 27, so I think 27 is PERFECT!  We're married. We have a house... I, personally would rather not start too late. We don't want to do any more traveling. (he was in the marine's and I have family oversea's...) I also wouldn't have wanted to start any sooner because I was young and liked to party.  I don't feel like I have gotten jipped from my childhood... 27 is perfect! 

shkdo0701

Whenever you feel ready and can provide for your baby. I had DD at 18 she was an accident but we were able to provide the basics.

ac_in_dc

Sort of a silly question IMO.

Physiologically, when I was in my early 20s it would have been a good time. But I didn't have a partner, so as a young single mom I may have had some trouble.

In my late 20s in my first marriage would have been a great time, but we struggled with infertility. So, no dice.

In my early 30s I was divorced. I was mature enough to be a competent single mom, but my preference was to raise a child with a partner, so I waited.

Now I'm 36 and married to a great guy, I'm really happy and my life is in a good place. I'm having a baby now. It's the ideal age for me.

Smootchy

chapski:

Of course it's different for everyone.  I'm 27, so I think 27 is PERFECT!  We're married. We have a house... I, personally would rather not start too late. We don't want to do any more traveling. (he was in the marine's and I have family oversea's...) I also wouldn't have wanted to start any sooner because I was young and liked to party.  I don't feel like I have gotten jipped from my childhood... 27 is perfect! 

ps... hubby is 31, if that matter's in you calculation

elidav2007

I am 28, DH is 29 and I think we are in a really good position to have children.  I had my DD when I was 21 and although it wasn't the easiest thing I think I was responsible enough and mature enought to handle it.  I think it all depends on individual circumstances.  I have a g/f that is 37 and just now pregnant with her first child becuase she got married later in life. 

araevg

DH and I will be 24 when we have LO, and we think that's a good age for us. We've been married for over two years, have good jobs, bought a house, and both graduated from college.

Everyone is different. It depends on where you're at on life, and what you want to do with your future. :-) DH and I are very family oriented, so this is the right decision for us.

KaciRoo

I think the ?perfect? age varies from person to person. I?ve seen and heard of people older and younger doing just fine. I?m 25 and DH is 30. DH says there is no way he would?ve been ready for kids at 25...it took him a few extra years to grow up .While this pregnancy wasn?t planned, we are definitely more than ready to take care of LO?and super excited!!

KaciRoo

mrsh0606:

Who is anyone to say what the right age is? 

THIS too!

megann831

I know its hard to put a number on it, but since the post below was saying that she was offended by being called an advanced aged, I was wondering if anyone would be able to... guess not

Ciconrad

I don't think it has anything to do with age.  DH was 30 and I was 27 when DS was born.  We are younger than most of are friends with kids that age, but just as ready.  We had been married for 5 years, owned a home for 3, saved enough money so I could SAH since I wanted to do that, saved money for college educations, had no debt besides our home and were just generally over the going out and living it up lifestyle.  I know 40 year olds you weren't that prepared. 

VanderLaan

I am 29 and DH is 36 and for us its the perfect time.  It just feels like its the right time...so to each their own!

ac_in_dc

 I guess I feel like making it through life in one piece, finding a supportive life partner, managing to actually conceive a child, etc...all these things are so challenging already. Trying to find an "ideal age" to do all of this...holy cow! Who needs the extra pressure?!?

PMeg819

Age is nothing but a number sometimes. I'm 26, and last year would have been a phenomenally sh!tty year to have a baby for us. That said, some 25  yos make great mom and some don't. All that matters is that you make it work for you regardless of age.

JenCrabbe13

Mrs.ABC:

When you're ready.

Amen. I will be 33 on Friday and for me that is the best age for me. When I turn 35 that will be the right time for #2. It is not an age thing, it is a mental, emotional and financial thing.

Lottie410

I am 23 I will be 24 when LO comes and DH is 28 we have been married for 3 years now. We planned this pregnancy we thought that if we waited untill we were financially secure we would never have children so we went ahead and started tring and God blessed us with a pregnancy. I am going back to school in the fall and I feel that God can't give you more than you can handle.

WildcatPrincess

Biologically it's like 19 or 20, but would I recommend having kids then?  No.  Therefore whenever a person is ready.

Court1

This is kind of a funny question to me.  I was 26 when DS was born and DH was 27.  Our next door neighbors had their first 3 months later....they're both 40.  Who's to say which is ideal.  They were a heck of a lot more tired, but they also make a little better money & have more savings.  My brother's best friend had a baby at 18 (accident of course).  She's married to the father now, through nursing school, and they have another.  All three of our families seem "normal" now & all of the children are well provided for with lots of love.  To each their own.

buckeyeki

I think 26-28 would have been a good age to start.  This is my first and I'm 30 (will be 31 when she's born) and I would like to be done by 35, but we want to have 3 so I'm not sure that will be possible.  We shall see though. 

katesmom73

I don't think there's an ideal age.  I had my first at 31 and I'll turn 37 shortly after my second.  I have to admit I see someone having a baby at 22, 23, 24 and I think that's really young but I'm sure they think I'm old

LCTL05

This is one of those questions like "How many kids is the right number".  Each person has a right number of kids to have at the right age with the right spacing. 

DH and I were 29 when dd was born.  We will be 33 when ds arrives in 2010.  At 29 had both been done with college for some time, owned our own home and had careers.  And to be honest, at 29, we still felt so young.  At 25, I was finishing grad school, and could not have balanced a child along with my career and grad school.  But at 29, it was the right time for us. 

And just as a funny....when I think that I'll be 33 when I have ds, it seems so old....but I just don't feel like I'm reaching that "35 - advanced maternal age".    It makes me laugh.  But this is the right timing for us. 

Follow_the_Drama!

I think like 16 would be perfect! Think about it you just got your license so you can take you LO places but you can still live at your mom and dad's. Also you have a curfew so you will be at home at night with LO! Perfect age!

Shandie_725

I'm 24, DH is 25. When peanut arrives we'll be 25 and 26. We are not in the best position to have a child: DH got laid off day before we found out we were KU, we were 6 weeks PG on our wedding day - hoping to have more time before kids and I'm 2 classes away from my degree (which was put on hold for said wedding)...

However, we know people in worse positions who've had kids and made out just fine. We've got great support in our family (for the most part) and friends and we just keep telling ourselves that everything will be okay  

hellomynameisfabulous

It's hard to say if there is an "ideal" time, like PPs have said, it is different for everyone. I am 26 and will be 27 right around the time the babies arrive. For us, it felt like the right time to have A baby...I didn't want to wait too long and then realize that we were not able to conceive easily. However, I won't lie and say that I feel totally prepared to parent two babies at this point in our lives. If I'd have "known" that we'd end up with two on the first try, I have  considered waiting a few more years, but then again, there's no way to know these things. Either way, I'm very blessed to have these little guys and we will make it work

Jennicap

Way long ago I wanted to be married before I was 25 and had all my kids by the age of 30. I got married at 27 and having my first at 32/33. sounds perfect to me

kdiaisfly

28 - 30