Am I being irrational?

Erourke

A little backround info. My mom is the type of woman that is emotionally and mentally unavailable. She is not a Mom to me at all, shes more like a friend. She offers no advice or wisdom to me particularly throught this pregnancy in which my husband is deployed and I am alone. She is however, pretty generous financially. She feels that any money she spends will make up for where she lacks emotionally. 

So heres the recent dillema... 

My Mom is throwing me 2 showers, one in NY, the other in FL. Trust me I am greatful for anything she does for me and I know I am not entitled to anything. That being said, she is throwing my FL shower 4 weeks before my due date. I am a 6 hour drive from where my shower will be in FL. When she told me the date, I was a little confused and asked why she chose that date in particular? Couldnt she do it a few weeks earlier so its easier for me to make it? She got so offended and hung up on me. Now.. I KNOW my mom very well, and I have a feeling this was the only weekend she could fit it "conveniently" into her schedule of romantic getaways with her cheating boyfriend. Am i being irrational? How would you handle this situation?

  

madhatter2003

You will not be given clearance to drive 6 hours at 36 weeks most likely...that was the point I was told to stay within 1-2 hours of my doc and hospital.

Brewtowngrl

Your OB won't be happy with you driving that far at 36 weeks.  I already had DS in my arms by then. Plus at 36 weeks you will be in full force nesting and want everything bought. 

SJHodgson

Same here.  I was told to stay no further than 2 hours at 35 weeks.

shkdo0701

Drive 6 hours? 36 weeks? HAH! I had to drive to clas which is roughly a 2 hour round trip 2 days a week and by the time I got home i was so swollen and miserable I could die!!! yah... not irrational, sane... real.. there is a difference!

Erourke

See this is why I love you guys!! My Mom makes me feel like im such a spoiled brat!

Sam78

That would not have been a problem for me (in fact, I flew home at 37 weeks instead of making the 5 hour drive), however, there is no way for you to know now how you will feel then, so its a good date only if your mom is amenable to it not happening or happening without you because you don't feel up to making the drive at that point.

inlovewow

Your doc would be against you driving that far.  I'd tell your Mom thank you for arranging the shower and you appreciate it very much but being too close to your due date is not anytime to be driving 6 hours away.  Tell her you'll be totally fine with having the 1 shower.  I'm sorry you're in this mess.  But this is your baby's health you have to think about!!!

americanada

you're the mama, she needs to respect your needs.