RP - Holidays with babies

bearfootz

Posted this on multiples board, but also want your advice.  

Please share your experience with this so I can get some perspective. 

Our babies were born at 33 1/2 weeks, both are doing fine now but the dr's had suggested that we avoid crowds, churches, family gatherings, etc. for a while.  Their ped. had recommended RSV shots, but the insurance co. denied them.  We've been keeping them at home since they got out of the NICU, only leaving for dr's appts. or a visit to Grandma's.  But now with the holidays fast approaching, we're torn.

On one hand we think we shouldn't take any risks and one of us should just stay home with the babies, there's always next year.

On the other hand, we really would like everyone to meet these babies and we'd really like to enjoy the holidays together as a family.  Of course we'd still be protective in that we'd make sure anyone holding them had just washed their hands.  We are also getting a lot of pressure from the family, who of course think that we're being overprotective...although I'd rather have healthy babies than annoyed relatives...but I think it is natural to want your whole family at the family gatherings.I'm thinking I could send out an email and make sure that no one has been sick in the past couple of weeks and then make the decision to bring them or not, but there's no guarantees that everyone really is healthy. 

This is just not how I pictured things going...but that seems to be the norm with twins, isn't it?  I also am nervous about bringing them that they will have a meltdown and I'll end up packing them up and heading home mid-festivities, so if you have any tips for avoiding that please share.

I'm sure you ladies have had this predicament, what did you do?

melmel10

i am in the same predicament.  my boy was born at 34 weeks.  curious to see the responses thanks for posting

*KatieH*

It's all about what you are comfortable with.  What the doctor says is just advice...you and dad are now the ones making judgment calls.   We still went out and still went to see family for the holidays.  But everyone knew the rules about being healthy and washing hands.  

jkipp82

we will be making phone calls just prior to gatherings to make sure no one is sick ad also not playing "pass the baby".  If anyone even has sniffles, we won't go.  We've avoided church the past few weeks because sickness seems to be getting more and more..and you're sometimes packed in there like sardines!

meldoo2002

We will just be doing holidays with our immediate family.  These are the people our boys see on a regular basis anyway (grandparents and aunts/uncles)  About 12 people total.  Also no children will be involved.  If there were going to be kids there we'd stay home as a family.  

beachykeen1723

I would say it depends on how much your family is going to respect your wishes about illness, and if they have kids.    We are going to do the holidays with my family, at our house, since DH's sister has kids.  We will open presents with his family via skype. HTH!