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I judged tonight

I judged a friend of ours tonight.  Perhaps it's flameful but I really can't believe this.  She is pregnant but still in the 1st trimester, so not making it public knowledge yet.  We were at a small get together and she told us that she was pregnant while she was drinking a beer!?!? She said she was not going to stop drinking but would cut back to social drinking and limit herself to a drink or two.  What?!?!?!

Maybe I'm too uptight about this but I don't think this is OK.  I mean it's one thing if you find out your pregnant and you had had some drinks prior to knowing.  But you are going to consciously choose to drink while pregnant?!?!  And we're not talking a sip of your DH's or friend's drink and we're not talking about caffeine.  She's a PhD level scientist!--come on!!

So yes, I judged...

Kim

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Re: I judged tonight

  • I wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut.  When I worked for CPS we got calls about this all the time...ugh...

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  • I don't blame you -- I would have judged to!  That's crazy.  There are some things in life just not worth risking.
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  • That's just selfish! I can't imagine doing that. She must have a problem.
  • I that irritates me SO bad!! My two BFFs both drank while pregnant...one glass of red wine & not too often, but still it irritated me so much!!! Yes I judge too.
  • IMO a drink here or there is not that big of a deal. I did not drink in the first trimester, but I had a glass of wine while I was pregnant. I tasted a few liquor drinks. To each her own, but some would consider eating lunch meat or drinking coffee a huge risk too.
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  • Ditto Becki.  I've had a glass of wine here and there since I hit second trimester - special occassions like my birthday or our anniversary.  Never more than one glass though. 

    However, I didn't drink my first trimester.  Once I found out I was very firm on NOT drinking during that time despite several saying, "MY doctor always said a glass of wine here and there couldn't hurt."  First trimester is just too scary & I certainly couldn't imagine JUST finding out & then downing a beer. 

  • I would have judged her, too.

    I would have had to say something. Any alcohol in the first trimester can be dangerous. I'm ok with an occasional glass of red wine during the third trimester when everything is formed, but not the first two trimesters! I didn't even have coffee or soda! 

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  • i would have judged too....alcohol in the first trimester is not a good idea...i didnt drink at all during my pregnancy after i knew i was pregnant but i know some people who had a glass or wine or 2 during their 3rd and im more okay with that then the 1st.
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    IMO a drink here or there is not that big of a deal. I did not drink in the first trimester, but I had a glass of wine while I was pregnant. I tasted a few liquor drinks. To each her own, but some would consider eating lunch meat or drinking coffee a huge risk too.

    I did not get the impression this would be an occasional drink here or there--more like 1-2 drinks 1-2 times per weekend.  I personally chose not to drink during pregnancy, other than a sip or two of DH's drink here and there.  But I just don't understand choosing to drink fairly regularly during pregnancy.   

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