When is it my turn?

megpeg

When do I get to have a hobby or get away?  DH plays WoW the worst computer game known to mankind every night for at least 2 hours and is now in a bowling league(tinite is the first night) he left at 9 and it is now 12.  Here is the kicker with that- an alternate for the team is one of the guys wifes so it she has to bowl I have to watch their little boy too. 

I love art- drawing and painting are totally my thing and I haven't been able to do them since I was pregnant.  I have DS all the time and never get any me time.  I sound so whiney but I feel like I am losing myself and don't know how to get back to me.  

Califlorida

just take the reigns.  sign up for an art class at a community college.  the spring semester would be starting after the holidays in most places.  then you have a firm commitment to be somewhere and your dh will have to pitch in to cover when you're gone.

J&A2008

Sign up for an art class!

preg_amy

Could you sign up for a class or for some studio time somewhere in your area?

That way you have somewhere else to go and you can say "sorry, DH, I have to be there at [insert time]."  Or set aside a certain time each week to have DH take care of the kids himself so that you have that definite time that you'll be able to relax and do what you want to do.

clayswife

You need to just sign up for something/schedule something and not 'wait your turn'.  If you keep waiting, it won't happen...

Mama Jan

i agree with all the pp - you need to take the reigns.

have you ever told your dh how you feel?  i often have to remind dh that "this is my everyday" (that's how i explain it to him, as in 'you get to go out whenever you want, eat out when you want, etc. but what you see right here, right now... this is everyday for me').

i have to remind him almost weekly that i need a chance to remember who i am (or who i was/what i loved) before kids.  he forgets but when i remind him, he will take the kids from me and let me enjoy life sans children.

and for me, i actually made a new hobby for myself since my pre-baby hobbies just weren't going to work (mostly volunteering).

GL! 

hderne05

I HATED HATED HATED when DH played WoW.  It almost broke us up it was so bad (he definitely played more than 2 hours a night though).  But I agree, just sign up for a class and go. 

But if I were in your shoes I would be pissed too.

cess525

If I waited for DH to say it was my turn I would never get to play tennis.  I set up my matches and contracts and tell him I have tennis on ____ and ____ days.  There are no questions asked.  Likewise he will turn to me and say I have to go to the range on ____ and ____ days.