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I've been wondering something, if you don't mind me asking.

You had Claire at 32 weeks, and then you had Keira at 27 weeks...I remember you phrased it as "every preemie mom's worst nightmare".

Pretty  much.

My question/though/rambling was that DH and I want to try again, if the doctors are optimistic about the success with a cerclage (which I think they are but we'll find out when we talk to them again Feb.)..

But at the same time, I know that I could deliver early again, and I don't know if DH or I (I'm more worried about him) can emotionally or physically handle another 26 weeker (or heaven forbid, earlier).

Did you have those same kinds of thoughts before Keira?  If so, did you handle another preemie (a much earlier preemie in your case) like you expected?  Or did you surprise yourself with how you handled preemie #2. 

 

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  • mcdevmcdev member

    First off, I'll start by saying my situation wasn't at all typical.  So please don't let my story freak you out!  There is a very strong possibility that I have a genetic disposition for preterm labor.  (My sister had my niece at 26 weeks and then lost 2 pregnancies late in pregnancy due to preterm labor).  If it is genetics that causes me to have my babies early, then no cerclage, drug, or bedrest was going to stop it.  Many, many women have success with cerclages and I will bet anything that you will be one of them!!

    With that said.....I had 2 cerclages with Keira that did not hold (14 weeks and 18 weeks).  I finally had a trans-abdominal cerclage done that DID hold, but my pregnancy took some crazy turns (placenta previa...small abruption...PROM....and preterm labor) that finally led to Keira's emergency c-section.

     I feel horrible writing this, but I was devastated when I found out I was pregnant with Keira.  Claire was only 14 months old when I found out I was pregnant and my intense anxiety over bedrest with a baby who was not yet walking and another premature birth far outweighed any happiness of having another child.  I was scared TO DEATH and just knew I would never be strong enough to handle another NICU stay.  Obviously I was wrong.  Keira spent 90 days in the NICU.  The same NICU Claire was in.  I think I handled Keira's 90 days far better than I ever would have thought I could.  The juggling of being mommy to Claire (who so desperately missed me since I had spent so much time locked away in my room or in the hospital during my bedrest) and then to Keira, (who so desperately need a strong mommy to advocate for her and get her through the first months of her life).  It was hard, but we managed.  I found a strength I never knew I had and my love for Keira was (is!) immeasurable.  I can't imagine life without her in it.  I can't imagine our family without her smiling face.  I can't imagine Claire without a baby sister. 

    So to make a long story short (TOO LATE!!)....I hope I answered all of your questions.  Making the decision to go for baby #2 after the ordeal you've been through is not going to come easily.  Talk to you doctors.  Create a plan that you are comfortable with.  

    Good luck to you!

    Claire Avery born at 32 weeks on 10/25/06 Keira Leigh born at 27 weeks on 4/29/08
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  • lemen99lemen99 member

    awwwww

    thanks!

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  • *Sweet pea**Sweet pea* member
    Wow! I just got chills.  Thanks for sharing mcdev.  Your an amazing women :)
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  • mcdevmcdev member

    You're welcome, Lemen!

    And thanks, Sweetpea....you made my day.  :) 

    Claire Avery born at 32 weeks on 10/25/06 Keira Leigh born at 27 weeks on 4/29/08
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  • lemen99lemen99 member

    image*Sweet pea*:
    Wow! I just got chills.  Thanks for sharing mcdev.  Your an amazing women :)

    ditto!!

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