Trying to figure out when to tell my Dad

alleyny

We just lost my mother to pancreatic cancer in August.  I am hesitant to tell him just incase this doesn't work out.  Next week I'll have an ultrasound and should be able to hear the HB- I'll be 7 weeks 2 days.  I know it will bring him so much happiness and something to look forward to.  I want to think positively, but I am still so worried.  Any advice?

noah-bear

Take him the sonogram picture! Give it to him in a "thinking of you" card.

It's so easy to be worried and so hard to be optimistic. I was a nervous wreck whenever I had a dr appointment, sonogram, blood work.  Every time you go in though, it seems like a new miracle.

GL! 

KeepingFaith

Im sorry about your mom, that must have been hard to deal with:-(

I would just wait until after your u/s and heartbeat.  After you hear the heartbeat you have only a 2% chance of a m/c(I think??).  Im sure your dad could use this great news

alheystek

we are telling our families on Thanksgiving. We ordered DS a shirt last night to tell everyone the news.

ckerr1

First of all, Im so sorry about your mother.  We lost DH's mom to it in April. Pancreatic cancer is horrible and no one should have to go through that.  

That being said, this is going to be something so uplifting for your Dad.  DH told my FIL the day after we got our positive test because he was so excited.  So far we have had two scares where we thought we were losing the baby, but we didn't.  Everyone in the family, including FIL have been so supportive and understanding.  Remember, that today you are pregnant and you should be excited.  Life is too short for all the worry (easier said than done).  

Once you have the ultrasound and have seen the heartbeat your risk of miscarriage drops anyway.  I would certainly tell your Dad after that and give him something to look forward to.  

Feel free to PM me anytime if you need to talk.  I understand exactly what you are going through.  Good Luck! (((Hugs))) 

AlexJ217

KeepingFaith:

Im sorry about your mom, that must have been hard to deal with:-(

I would just wait until after your u/s and heartbeat.  After you hear the heartbeat you have only a 2% chance of a m/c(I think??).  Im sure your dad could use this great news

 

my doctor said something similiar. the chances of something happening significantly decrease once you reach 6 weeks and hear a heartbeat. good luck to you. let us know how it goes!