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CesEve99
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leanna & melb
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thanks to both of you with the feedback on sleeping.
leanna, i cant write back to you on fb until i get home, but in the meantime can you please tell me what edition is the sleepeasy book?
i came up with this on ebay:
melb, its harder when dh & i arent on the same page with this one. dont get me wrong, he totally sees my point of view but wont come to terms with actually doing it. im hoping the book leanna recommended can give him a brighter insight. with that said he goes oot on business in 2 weeks and it should give me 3 days to tackle this situation at home by myself. it just sucks to see your kid cry herself to bed, especially now with a whole new bed and not just a crib anymore. the situation sucks. i totally remember sophie falling asleep by the door and hope its not the case with mady 
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Re: leanna & melb
Link to the book on Amazon
I hope it helps. I know its heartbreaking when your kid is crying and you have to fight every single natural instinct you have to not go in there (at least for me). It's a lot easier for me when marc is out of town to deal with sleep issues when they arise. I can just sit by myself and not talk about it and distract myself until the next time I go in to check on her. When he's here, I feel like I have to explain myself and why I'm not going in. I'm edgy and upset and we argue. The book really helped me. What I liked the best was that it reinforces that a mother's instinct is the most important thing and that you need to do what's best for you and our family. I know I haven't been there with the toddler bed yet (and i'm hoping to keep her confined to a crib as long as possible!), but I have been through more than one instance of sleep rebellion.
thank you for your words!
this is EXACTLY how i feel when it comes down to bedtime and my having to explain to him why what i'm doing feels right. it sucks, i feel like im being judged by my own dh.
the worst part for me is having to put mady through this so early vs. other toddlers who don't transition into they are closer to 2 yrs old. but to prevent another incident of her falling out of the crib we decided to take this route.
ill keep you posted!!!
OMG...ditto! My husband would just look at me like its my call. Haha. I am the one who decides if we go in or not...or I was for a long time. However, now she does not just cry - she calls out for MOMMY (not Daddy) which makes it harder to stay away. Also, tho, now that Sophie is actually staying in her bed I feel better going in and talking to her and kissing her for a few minutes to soothe her. Its definitely much easier now that she is a little older and can say to ME, "Mommy goes night night? Daddy goes night night? Sophie goes night night in her bed." That was a light bulb moment for the whole family.
Its so hard - but you will get there. You have to do what is right for you and what feels right to you. And I don't mean what feels easy - what feels right. We as parents know when we are giving in - and we know when its the right thing to do to give in.
GL!
ox,
Mel
you know what else sucks? the constant "but she's still a baby enjoy her, before you know it you won't be able to rock her anymore" from other people (mostly family).
yes, trust me, i do know that, i'm one to linger on and enjoy every second with mady (those who know me know very well how attached i am to her). but to hear that knowing that i'm teaching her zero independency by falling asleep in my arms EVERY NIGHT just feels so wrong. i feel like im holding her back.
as a parent we go through all these trial and tribulations and always fear we are making a mistake, this is one instance were it feels like that to me.
Honestly, my response to people who said that to me was, "I can enjoy her at every stage - not just as a baby". She is not going to stay a baby forever and I don't need to rock Sophie to bond with her. Hugs and kisses and reading together and watching TV are great moments. Of course, I still sneak in to watch her sleep and kiss her cheeks. There is nothing sweeter than a sleeping child but it makes me feel good to know that she can put herself to sleep. Honestly, a big moment was when we left her for the first time when we went on vacation and GUESS WHAT? That little booger gave my mom NO trouble at bedtime. No whining. No crying. She was all, "night night, Nana" and rolled over and went to sleep. That is how I knew that she was trying to pull a fast one on mommy and daddy. They are a lot more resilient than we know.
Follow your instincts - ignore the naysayers. This is your child.