Beating (lol) a possibly dead horse...

LittleMamaB

The other masturbation post on 6-12...how will you handle it with your kids?

Am I the only one with boys that doesn't shudder at the thought of having this discussion with them? There were a ton of "DH will talk to him" replies, and I really don't quite understand why it is so difficult. Thre was even a "we certainly won't bring it up" reply. LOL. If it's that hard to talk to them about masturbating, how on earth will they talk to them about sex with someone else?

Maybe I'm minimizing it because I already have a kid that I've had to have these talks with, but seriously, what's the big deal? Why do so many mothers seem like they will be afraid to address their sons' penis issues? 

BubblyToes

Please see my newest post over there.

kevschickee2

I will not make a big deal of it.  All I ask is it be done in private (so there are no questions from other kids or such) but hey it is their body

mrskadams

I'm totally there with you. I normally post on the 6-12 month, but thought I'd check this one out after seeing some of your posters. I've completely had these talks with my boys, and I will continue to do so. Their father, my ex, had the sex talk with them in 5th grade. As soon as he called to tell me what he'd done, I knew I'd need to fix it. We had a very frank discussion, and I'm proud to say my kids said I did a much better job than their dad!

Marce921

LOL Bubbly!

Temp108743750006959

nope, I'm fine with such discussions. I worry a lot more about explaining to my son why people kill and hurt each other when he'll eventually understand the news...

talking about sex and natural functions seems easy-peasy in comparison.

femmegem

They'd probably die of shock if they knew I kind of wish my DS would spank the monkey a bit more. His penis still has loose skin (he's circ'ed) and occasionally starts adhering again, and I think if it were seeing a bit more action we wouldn't have to worry so much about that.

BubblyToes

mrskadams:

I'm totally there with you. I normally post on the 6-12 month, but thought I'd check this one out after seeing some of your posters. I've completely had these talks with my boys, and I will continue to do so. Their father, my ex, had the sex talk with them in 5th grade. As soon as he called to tell me what he'd done, I knew I'd need to fix it. We had a very frank discussion, and I'm proud to say my kids said I did a much better job than their dad!

You appear normal, please visit us often.  We need new blood here.

ridesbuttons

I find it odd that they are expecting to have 'the talk' with their kids.  Like magically one day they will need to address their children as sexual beings.

I am anticipating a dialogue that will start shortly.  Little boys (esp when potty training) are going to discover their penises, and they will have questions.  Little questions, maybe, but questions nonetheless.

No big talk in our future.  Dialogue.

mrskadams

BubblyToes:

mrskadams:

I'm totally there with you. I normally post on the 6-12 month, but thought I'd check this one out after seeing some of your posters. I've completely had these talks with my boys, and I will continue to do so. Their father, my ex, had the sex talk with them in 5th grade. As soon as he called to tell me what he'd done, I knew I'd need to fix it. We had a very frank discussion, and I'm proud to say my kids said I did a much better job than their dad!

You appear normal, please visit us often.  We need new blood here.

Why thank you!  Obviously, I'm not a first time mom, and I haven't seen my 20's in a long time.  I'll have to check this board out!

femmegem

mrskadams:

BubblyToes:

mrskadams:

I'm totally there with you. I normally post on the 6-12 month, but thought I'd check this one out after seeing some of your posters. I've completely had these talks with my boys, and I will continue to do so. Their father, my ex, had the sex talk with them in 5th grade. As soon as he called to tell me what he'd done, I knew I'd need to fix it. We had a very frank discussion, and I'm proud to say my kids said I did a much better job than their dad!

You appear normal, please visit us often.  We need new blood here.

Why thank you!  Obviously, I'm not a first time mom, and I haven't seen my 20's in a long time.  I'll have to check this board out!

Please do! When we don't have masturbation posts to rip apart, it's dead as a doornail over here these days. But we have some fun people here.

Lisa102304

I'll do the same thing as when she went through her "lift up the shirt and show everyone her boobies" phase. I told her that her body was hers and we don't show everyone the goods. But if she wants to look at her boobies, do it in her room or the bathroom. No biggie.

suzymarie

Most people I know with kindy-2nd-ish grade kids have already addressed sex.  This seems totally like a non-issue to me.  You discuss everybody does it, that it should be done in private, and what else is there to it?  It isn't like you are going to get into technique detials, right?

Now, if you want to talk about teen girls and vibrators, that is a convo that I have no idea how to address!

JOEBunny

I think I can teach the little guy not to wack himself in public.  Doesn't seem that complicated. 

eclaires

Well I feel like we've already started by explaining to Jackson that it is all right to touch his penis, but his penis is private.

He likes to show us his penis and then announce, "ooo I'm touching my penis and it is getting BIG!"

So yeah, good luck w/ all that ladies of 6-12 months.  It's coming much sooner than they anticipate, I'm sure.

JenniC1135

eclaires:

Well I feel like we've already started by explaining to Jackson that it is all right to touch his penis, but his penis is private.

He likes to show us his penis and then announce, "ooo I'm touching my penis and it is getting BIG!"

So yeah, good luck w/ all that ladies of 6-12 months.  It's coming much sooner than they anticipate, I'm sure.

 

This exactly.  The twins are three and we've had to already have multiple conversations about penises being private and yes it tickles to touch it but please do it when you are alone and wash your hands after.  Same with DD's "privates" (yes she knows she has a vagina but privates is more encompassing of the entire area) though not to the same extent as the boys.  THE TALK isn't something that happens once in 6th grade if you expect to have a normal person at the end of the child-rearing experience.  They'll see - they're like all first time moms - clueless out of ignorance.

crazynervous

I haven't read the post you are talking about but I think I would be more worried about embarassing my son with the talk.  I have know idea who will talk to them when the time comes but I think having a serious talk with your child no matter the topic can always be a little nerve racking.  just my thoughts....

hopefulmom

I'm thinking my DH will talk to him...unless of course my DS brings the question to me...then I will.  My DH would probably relate better than I would.  Just as I will talk with my DD regarding periods since my DH has never had to deal with it.