Can you ladies please help me? (in re: to yesterday)

californiastars

Ok, so as many of you read yesterday I had a BFP in the morning and in the afternoon I was spotting and by late afternoon AF was here full force. I know the test was positive (and I keep looking at it and there is a line, I am not crazy)

So I need help with what happened. Was it a cp? Another m/c? a false positive? I just don't get it. 

I am so mad right now. I was so excited and thankful that we won't have to do injections and iui. Now it looks like January we will start all that crap. Damn it.

I just don't get it.  

Scout05

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like a chemical pregnancy, which of course is every bit as upsetting and painful as a m/c. I had one in August, and basically we had faint positives for two days and then my period started. Our bloodwork came back negative for a pregnancy, but I still feel that loss and mourn it.

I'm really sorry hon.

cintim

Oh no! I was so pulling for you. I'm so sorry.

Did you only use one test? If so, was it a FRER? From what I read, FRER's don't tend to have evaporation lines but the tests with the blue dye do.

I'm so sorry.

californiastars

cintim:

Oh no! I was so pulling for you. I'm so sorry.

Did you only use one test? If so, was it a FRER? From what I read, FRER's don't tend to have evaporation lines but the tests with the blue dye do.

I'm so sorry.

It was an FRER and the line showed up within the testing time (like 3 minutes or something like that) 

bebeblues

I'm so sorry. I was hoping you'd get darker lines and less cramping.

I don't have experience with this. I would guess you'll have to call your dr. It sounds like a cp though. Not sure?

((hugs))

lax15bsu

Sounds like a cp, but I'm not a dr so couldn't know for sure. :-(

Kelly0615

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

I had a cp with my 2nd m/c on Clomid and my HcG level was 0 by the time AF came. Were you on any fertility treatments? 

Again, I'm really sorry you are going through this. Huge hugs for you, girl.

 

californiastars

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

I had a cp with my 2nd m/c on Clomid and my HcG level was 0 by the time AF came. Were you on any fertility treatments? 

Again, I'm really sorry you are going through this. Huge hugs for you, girl.

 

Yes. I was on my 5th round of Clomid.  

Scout05

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

Kelly makes such an important point here. I hate this term because it makes it sound like the pregnancy "doesn't count" or that you shouldn't be sad. We all know how completey untrue those presumptions are, and you are right to feel however you do right now.

Kelly0615

californiastars:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

I had a cp with my 2nd m/c on Clomid and my HcG level was 0 by the time AF came. Were you on any fertility treatments? 

Again, I'm really sorry you are going through this. Huge hugs for you, girl.

 

Yes. I was on my 5th round of Clomid.  

When I was on Clomid (both times) they didn't do any monitoring. I wish I knew if my lining was thick enough to support a pregnancy. Did you have any monitoring?

I know this is very disappointing and I'm here for you. Let me know if you need anything. I'm always a PM away.

californiastars

hmmm...I have been on this board almost a year. Maybe God meant for me to so I can entertain you ladies as you pass through.

:::looks up and yells:::

I think I have been entertaining God, can I go entertain them on SAL anytime soon? Really now, come on!

Ashley858

Sounds like a cp. Im so sorry. I was pulling for you. T&P are being sent your way.

californiastars

Kelly0615:

californiastars:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

I had a cp with my 2nd m/c on Clomid and my HcG level was 0 by the time AF came. Were you on any fertility treatments? 

Again, I'm really sorry you are going through this. Huge hugs for you, girl.

 

Yes. I was on my 5th round of Clomid.  

When I was on Clomid (both times) they didn't do any monitoring. I wish I knew if my lining was thick enough to support a pregnancy. Did you have any monitoring?

I know this is very disappointing and I'm here for you. Let me know if you need anything. I'm always a PM away.

They didn't do any monitoring. I had asked them about it, but they said that I was Oing and my progesterone test was normal so I was fine. When we start again in January we will have double coverage and not have to pay for anything. I am going to tell them that I want every test and every u/s needed. I want it all covered. I expect to be in their office more than I am in my own house! 

californiastars

ambrandau2:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

Kelly makes such an important point here. I hate this term because it makes it sound like the pregnancy "doesn't count" or that you shouldn't be sad. We all know how completey untrue those presumptions are, and you are right to feel however you do right now.

Thanks. This helps. Now I don't feel like a complete idiot for having tears streaming down my face 

Kelly0615

californiastars:

Kelly0615:

californiastars:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

I had a cp with my 2nd m/c on Clomid and my HcG level was 0 by the time AF came. Were you on any fertility treatments? 

Again, I'm really sorry you are going through this. Huge hugs for you, girl.

 

Yes. I was on my 5th round of Clomid.  

When I was on Clomid (both times) they didn't do any monitoring. I wish I knew if my lining was thick enough to support a pregnancy. Did you have any monitoring?

I know this is very disappointing and I'm here for you. Let me know if you need anything. I'm always a PM away.

They didn't do any monitoring. I had asked them about it, but they said that I was Oing and my progesterone test was normal so I was fine. When we start again in January we will have double coverage and not have to pay for anything. I am going to tell them that I want every test and every u/s needed. I want it all covered. I expect to be in their office more than I am in my own house! 

I understand completely. I had the same protocol on Clomid. With IUI, they do very thorough testing and monitoring.

Again, if you need a friend I'm close by.

hopingwaiting

californiastars:

Thanks. This helps. Now I don't feel like a complete idiot for having tears streaming down my face 

(((Hugs))).  Please don't feel like an idiot.  From the moment we see the double lines we bond with our future baby.  Therefore it's a loss and of course you are grieving it.

Kelly0615

californiastars:

ambrandau2:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

Kelly makes such an important point here. I hate this term because it makes it sound like the pregnancy "doesn't count" or that you shouldn't be sad. We all know how completey untrue those presumptions are, and you are right to feel however you do right now.

Thanks. This helps. Now I don't feel like a complete idiot for having tears streaming down my face 

This is one of your angels, no matter how long the stay. 

nomadicprincess

ambrandau2:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

Kelly makes such an important point here. I hate this term because it makes it sound like the pregnancy "doesn't count" or that you shouldn't be sad. We all know how completey untrue those presumptions are, and you are right to feel however you do right now.

This.  This is why I consider my CPs as miscarriages.  The type of m/c it was=CP.  It hurts all the same.

candycane3t

hopingwaiting:

californiastars:

Thanks. This helps. Now I don't feel like a complete idiot for having tears streaming down my face 

(((Hugs))).  Please don't feel like an idiot.  From the moment we see the double lines we bond with our future baby.  Therefore it's a loss and of course you are grieving it.

Absolutely this!

Mrs.PinkPearls

Did you ever call to get betas checked? I had a chemical pregnancy. And it was like that.  I still got betas checked since they considered it a m/c. Im sorry.

californiastars

Mrs.PinkPearls:

Did you ever call to get betas checked? I had a chemical pregnancy. And it was like that.  I still got betas checked since they considered it a m/c. Im sorry.

After the spotting stopped, Leslie convinced me to go get them done. I made my way over to the lab and went to the bathroom, and at that point AF was here. I said fvck it and went home. I was just to upset. I called my RE this morning and left a message as to why I didn't get them done. I am guessing they will call me back tomorrow (they are in the office for half days on Saturdays and Sundays) or Monday.  

Nikkicole007

ambrandau2:

Kelly0615:

Oh no...I am so sorry. It sounds like a cp. I'm not sure how much I like the term, but don't let it diminish the fact that you were pg, even if it was for a short time.

Kelly makes such an important point here. I hate this term because it makes it sound like the pregnancy "doesn't count" or that you shouldn't be sad. We all know how completey untrue those presumptions are, and you are right to feel however you do right now.

Agree. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.

fit4ever1379

My doctor told me yesterday that a cp is like a m/c and i told her it is a m/c... cause i had hcg in my blood which means a positive bfp.

Anyhow my re does do the full monitor with b/w & u/s but for some reason when i m/c in sept they said i would be put on progestrone and i wasnt and now i'm pissed cause i had my 2nd m/c or cp whatever u wanna call it yesterday and still bleeding heavy and all my doc said was its a cp.

How the F*** how do they know until they draw your betas again?? i hate this crap and the one female doc that called me I cant stand her..

I wish you luck and if your not happy with ur re I would look around..I may be doing that myself...

Again GL!

BabyRN2009

I am so sorry!  Like the others have said, it sounds like a cp.  My first bfp ended up being a cp too, I got a positive test and then four days later AF started.  I did get a couple of betas inbetween there to confirm it, but they weren't going anywhere (16 to 18 then down).  I'm so sorry you're having to go through this again. 

(((HUGS))) Thinking of you!!

KelzinBoston

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  Never be ashamed of being upset, a loss is a loss.

vkbaby09

I'm so sorry.  I'd be really upset too.  I'm glad that in Jan you'll be super covered though and get a ton of monitoring for your IUI...but I know that doesn't really help w/ how you're feeling now.

((((((((((big hugs))))))))))))

heathergirl67

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry.  I know what you mean about CP being demeaning.  There's no such thing as a throwaway pregnancy and every baby is important, no matter how little.  My thoughts are with you and DH.

MollyK0222

Oh, I am so sorry you are going through this.  I don't have any advice for your situation, but I want you to know I'm sorry and I'm thinking about you.

amwallace

So sorry! I had that happen a few weeks ago to myself - got a BFP one day, the next a negative, and then heavy bleeding. I think it is a chemical pregnancy..... sorry

CoastieWife08

I don't have advice, but I did want to say that I'm so sorry.  ((hugs))

dondraandluis

I would guess that it was a cp. I'm really sorry that you are going through this again.