A little DH help please.

Tcarrol12

I need suggestions!! I dont know what to do anymore. In the last 2 weeks pregnancy has really set in!! Im feeling it big time. My whole pregnancy DH and his family have pretty much told me to "cowboy up" when ever I have a problem or whine a little. DH is not nearly as bad as his parents (who really are nice nice people). DH had 4 siblings each of his parents have 6 siblings and all Dh's siblings have 4 kids. So popping them out is just what woman are made for in there eyes I guess. Im from DE. and its deff. not the case at home!

The problem now is DH doesnt realize how hard it is at this point. Which this is his first kid so how would he know. I have off today and tomorrow. Today there is nothing planned but cleaning the whole house but tomorrow we were suppose to take a 5 hour trip over the mountain to take our camper into elk camp where Dh will be using it in a few months. I was thrilled about it but knew I could make it. Well this morning DH calls and says change of plans!!! Im like ok what. He won 4 tickets to a college football came 4 hours away tomorrow and we are now going to that on top of me going hunting to shoot my deer today.

If I wasnt pregnant it would be an easy weekend but im really hurting and my carpal tunnel has now made it impossiable for me to close my right hand and it just achs!! I dont know how to tell him I need him to chill out of me a little. To someone who isnt pregnant it doesnt even seem like a busy weekend but to a huge waddling 8 month pregnant woman its a lot to do. Im really not lazy and I dont want Dh to think that. What can I do? I tried to bring it up the other night and he kinda just wrote it off as me being tired and hormonal!

LadyJavy

Ummm... just say you don't want to do it and that its too much for you. I told DH a few months ago that we weren't making any plans after October just in case there were any complications that would keep me home. I definitely couldn't do a weekend full of college football games and hunting right now! I had a hard time last weekend with running normal errands!

bracystake

You just need to be honest.  I tried the super woman tactic for a while and was burned by it with a huge emotional breakdown that scared my DH silly.  You're doing the best you can but priority number one is taking care of yourself and that baby.  Hunting and college football are not priorities if you're having to sacrifice your mind and body.  He should understand if you are honest with both him and yourself. 

Abinormal

I would tell him that you have the energy and capability of either going to the game or taking the camper to the hunting place. Let him make the choice of which one he would rather do and go along with his choice without complaining. I know that you're tired and it's hard to have long days (I'm right there with you), but you only have so much time to do things together before the baby arrives.

FWIW, in this situation my DH would probably chose the football game. The game is a once a year type of opportunity whereas you can always take the camper down next weekend.

ahappygilmore

I agree with pp's you need to be honest, asap. How about picking one or the other to do? but not both if your not feeling up to it.

vmm0016

LOL, I am the exact opposite.  I squish as much as I can on the weekends and my DH tells me I need to slow down.  I made a compromise with him; Friday nights and Saturday I am packing as much as I can in.  Sunday I will stay home with him.  Maybe you can come up with something like that.