Morbid Clicky Poll (impossible hypothetical mentioned)

heathergirl67

It seems so unfair to me that women who have already had a miscarriage can have more.  But at the same time I wouldn't want to spread that heartache around, just making more people miserable.  So here's a situation I cooked up.  Tell me what you think.

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mlmtgg

these are actually really interesting results.

I can admit I chose 60. While I don't want anyone to go through one loss, let alone multiple - I just know that having multiple losses - I would not wish one loss on one more person. . .

ezbakejess

On the days I'm able to look at the bright side of things I see how much closer this loss has brought me and DH - going through something like that changed us forever.

I also think having a loss will make me appreciate my forever baby infinitely more - as of today I have never longed for something so much in my life.

Even though I would never wish a loss on anyone, I believe that more than one is unacceptable.

Therefore I chose the 2nd option - everyone would have a (hopefully very early) loss, strengthen their relationships with their DHs, long for a forever baby for a very short time, then make as many babies as they want and live happily every after  

heathergirl67

mlmtgg:

these are actually really interesting results.

I can admit I chose 60. While I don't want anyone to go through one loss, let alone multiple - I just know that having multiple losses - I would not wish one loss on one more person. . .

Yep, that's why it's such a tough choice.  I'm glad no one seems too offended (yet).  These are just some of the sick thoughts that dance around my head.

someflower6

although i don't wish a miscarriage on anyone, i also don't think there should be a select chosen few who need to bear the brunt repeatedly.

so i said 100 women.

Scout05

This is awful, maybe, but I said 100. Because that way everyone could support one another, and no one would have to feel the way I do when I see women who are pg who haven't "earned" their babies the way we will.

Is that amazingly sick? I don't really want people to have losses, of course. But in this context....that's really what I feel.

ETA: Wow, I really need that therapy, don't I. Come on Sat.

K2thaT

ambrandau2:

This is awful, maybe, but I said 100. Because that way everyone could support one another,

This is why I picked this one. That?s a pretty small village, and I think it would bring them together to support one another.

PeetiePie

I picked 100, but I have no idea why.

ShellShockedMama

ambrandau2:

This is awful, maybe, but I said 100. Because that way everyone could support one another

This was my reasoning too. While nobody should have any losses, it's beyond unfair to have more than one, so I chose 100

3ltlones

that's a tough one.  I chose the 60 women just because I don't want more people to go through what I have. I have had multiple losses and don't want anyone to go through that either, but I guess the fewer the better.

Kel&Jay

I went with the 100 option.  Having had multiple m/c's I really think it should be spread around.  It sucks to even think about someone else having to go through this misery, but why should we have to have more than one?

priya&peter

i chose a 100 because i feel like if there have to be a certain number of losses, the pain should be spread around and if it happened to everyone, I think it would easier to handle - all the women would be supportive because they had been through it, no one would have to wonder why they were singled out for such awful pain, and the thought of having to go through more than one loss is just too awful.

meggiejo

I actually chose the 60 option. I look at my DH's family and those of us who have experienced a loss- not to sound concieted- are the stronger emotionally. My SIL would never be able to recover, she has had a hard time dealing with my losses. If it meant that she never had to go through that heartbreak, I would willingly endure multiple losses.

candycane3t

mlmtgg:

these are actually really interesting results.

I can admit I chose 60. While I don't want anyone to go through one loss, let alone multiple - I just know that having multiple losses - I would not wish one loss on one more person. . .

I agree with Mindy for myself too having already had multiple losses.

OCIrishBruin

K2thaT:

ambrandau2:

This is awful, maybe, but I said 100. Because that way everyone could support one another,

This is why I picked this one. That?s a pretty small village, and I think it would bring them together to support one another.

OCIrishBruin

K2thaT:

ambrandau2:

This is awful, maybe, but I said 100. Because that way everyone could support one another,

This is why I picked this one. That?s a pretty small village, and I think it would bring them together to support one another.

kimber926

I picked 100.  I handled my first m/c okay.  I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but DH and I made it.   It's the unending feeling that this is never going to happen for us that makes me miserable.  I also think that the "alonenesss" that we all feel would go away if 50% of our village was suffering together.