3rd Trimester

someone explain this to me

Why do people want to come to the hospital while you are in labor & sit in the waiting room waiting for the baby to be born?

I just dont freakin get it. We plan on not telling anyone when I go into labor & just calling when we have the baby. Well, that turned into everyone stalking us (and i mean literally my sister comes to my work every freakin day to see that im here & drives by our house & calls & texts). Its driving me mad and its not even that she is excited to see our baby. She just wants to be the first person to know so she can blab to everyone cause she has a big mouth. And my mom took us not wanting people there while we are in labor to mean that no one can visit us in the hospital after she is born, which is not what I meant at all. I just cant deal with people outside my labor room (and yes when my sister gave birth my mom actually snuck down the hall & listened at the door & reported on what was being said) while Im trying to give birth. UGH. I just dont get it.

Re: someone explain this to me

  • I totally agree!  How boring would it be to just sit there for hours and hours (well, hopefully not too many hours Wink) when you could be at home or work actually doing something to pass the time?
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  • haha i love waiting in the waiting room when my nephew was born! i sat there for hours!  I didnt see anything wrong with it... its an exciting time, and while many see it as a waste of time it only happens once for each child, so its worth sitting there... I would understand if people wanted to wait in the waiting room for my daughter, id be flattered that she meant that much to them! :)
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  • Haha  HEY!  You need to tell me as soon as you go into labor! 

    Seriously, I won't be there until you want me there so if you need someone to text/email/whatever while you're in labor, I'm here.  Hell, I can be security for you if you want Wink

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  • I just had to explain this to my mother.  With my first, both sets of parents waited, plus my wonderful SIL.  It was fine, to be quite honest.  They'd come in, joke around, then go back out to wait.  This time will be different, though, because I don't want one set of grandparents to be present and not the other (and one set will be responsible for my 21 month old).  We're telling them to stay home until the baby's born.  I would REALLY like for Calloway to be the first one to meet Ari, even though he has no idea what's going on!

    The house-stalking would piss me off, though.  

  • i know what you mean! a friend of mine wants me to call her as soon as i go into labor so she can wait until the baby is born. I explained to her that it could be hours.. and even after baby is born, I probably won't want to see a bunch of ppl right away, if anyone, until i've rested. But she insists on waiting! I felt bad saying no, but I ended up telling her that although I love the support, I just don't want anyone there (friends and family [besides like my parents]) until AFTER she is born and then we'll start calling ppl.

     

    I also had to make a strict no cameras rule too...... mainly for my friends.... I don't want my baby being shown on facebook before i even have the chance to show her off myself.

  • Because they love you and are anxious to meet your LO. I remember waiting when my sister was in labor (although she wasn't annoyed by it, I don't think) and it was great to go in and see my brand new niece for the first time. It was such a great family experience waiting and wondering if it would be a girl or a boy. No one would do it if they weren't really excited. However if it makes you uncomfortable then just let them know. I remember with #1 I didn't care much either way, but once it was all over I was so anxious and emotional to see my mom. I was so glad she was right there, met DS and then left to let me sleep.
  • our families live 4 hours away so they all want to know when I go into labor so they can start packing up and making the trip to boston... the waiting room is a few floors away, so I won't see them or hear from them until everything is done. if they want to sit and wait it out, it's up to them, i'm not going to stop them.
  • This baffles me too. We're not telling anyone until after the birth and we're settled. If we told our parents, they would just keep calling us for updates and get angry if we didn't answer. As it is, when I didn't answer my phone ONCE my MIL called the hospital to see if I had been admitted. I told DH to put an end to that immediately!
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    As it is, when I didn't answer my phone ONCE my MIL called the hospital to see if I had been admitted. I told DH to put an end to that immediately!

    WOW

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  • I totally agree with pp's camera restriction so baby doesn't get plastered all over FB. 

    The other day my BFF was like "I'll announce when the baby is born on FB!" and I had to tell her that we would really prefer if she didn't.  Arg to FB sometimes.

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  • This is my sister!  My mom and her stalk me everyday.  She is actually loseing sleep because she is afraid that she is going to miss it.  Sunday evening she called while my husband and I were taking a nice nap.  Neither of us heard our cell phones down stairs.  She panicked.  Yes, she called me and my husband multiple times and assumed that something was wrong when we didn't answer her first 5 calls in a half an hour time period.  She has become very obsessive.  She called me this morning to just check on me and see if I am about to "pop that baby out" yet.  I was in the shower and didn't answer right away and again she panicked.  Uggh.  I can not live next to the phone 24/7.  I do have to sleep, eat, and shower occasionally.
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