At dinner last night, an old man walked pased and stopped to coo at N, then said, "Look how well behaived she is! Must be a breastfed baby."
I was beaming. I would never say that to a stranger because of how taboo of a topic it has become, but I thought that was funny/weird and at the same time made me feel really good.
Re: "Must be a breastfed baby."
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That's so cute!
I can't wait until I'm old and can say whatever I'm thinking
Same here! That guy must just know lots of calm-tempered BF babies.
I'm glad that he made you smile, but I think that's a pretty terrible thing to say to someone without knowing if they breastfeed or not. It's almost like a judgement disguised as a compliment.
Of course, I'm sensitive on the topic because of my low-supply issues, and probably would have cried if someone said that to me, lol.
I will say, though. Out of the people I know with babies, the breastfed ones are all MORE fussy....so I'm with the others on that one, lol.
But, I am SO glad that your baby is calm-tempered!
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Can you imagine if he said the opposite, "Hey what a calm baby, he must be FF." You'd be up in arms!
Either way it's ridiculous. BF does not make a calm baby. I think we're all educated enough to know that.
Be up in arms? No I wouldn't. i would chuckle and think, "hmm. how funny" after he walked by. It's not ridiculous. It is one measly person's opinion. Certainly not worth, "up in arms!"
My point was that b/c it's not true there is no reason to take it as a compliment b/c as the PP said, it is also a backhanded criticism of those who FF.
It's like when I was pg people would say to me, "Oh your baby will be nice and calm b/c you and DH are calm." While that was a nice thing to say, it is completely untrue.
Just like a strange old man telling you your baby is well behaved is nice, saying it's b/c you BF is completely and utterly untrue and does a disservice to women who FF.
Thanks for clarifying that for me! I did think it was an odd comment and the first thing out of my mouth when he walked away was something to the effect of old people having no sensors and that I would never say that to someone. None-the-less I did take it as a compliment and I'm sorry if that offends you.
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