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Focusing on the Future

I had a rough day yesterday but last night after talking to DH I felt alot better. For the first time since I've been home from the hospital and we first found out about the ectopic DH and I actually had time to talk. Hes kept alot of his feelings inside because he was trying to be strong for me. We just talked about everything last night and we've both decided that New Years will be when we start TTC again. We both thought it would be the perfect time for a fresh start and trying to leave all the bad behind and move on to a new year in a positive way. Until then we both agreed to focus on saving money and spending alot of time together just the two of us. Were both still devastated about the loss of this baby but having a date of when will TTC again and having some kind of plan on how we are going to get through this together really helps right now. It's giving me some hope and reason to be optimistic about the future.

"Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"

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BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
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BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl <3
IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
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  • this sounds like a good plan, DH and I had a major talk the other night as well, and we are trying to do things that we know the other needs to feel appreciated, this experience has brought us closer and has made us realize what we have been missing out on. I will be praying for you!
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  • Sounds like a great plan!  It is so helpful to have something positive to visualize and work towards.  GL to you and enjoy the time and your husband will spend together.
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    this sounds like a good plan, DH and I had a major talk the other night as well, and we are trying to do things that we know the other needs to feel appreciated, this experience has brought us closer and has made us realize what we have been missing out on. I will be praying for you!

    Thank you so much. It's so hard to stay positive when something horrible happens but I'm doing what I can to focus on our future instead of dwelling on the past. I pray that all of us on this board get the chance to have happy and healthy babies very soon! No one should ever have to go through this kind of loss!

    "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"

    Our TTC Journey

    BabyFetus Ticker

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    I'm a mom to my 4 angel babies who were taken from us much to soon!
    BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
    BFP# 2 on 03/21/2010 EDD 11/30/10 Natural M/C on 3/27/10
    BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl <3
    IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
    IVF#2 and Stims started 12/2 ER 12/16 ET 12/21 transferred two beautiful blastocysts. Please stick LO's! BFP 12/26
    Benjamin Matthew Our Little Miracle Born 9/5/2012!
    BFP 1/2/14 EDD 9/11/14

  • hey crystal! 

    again, sorry for your loss! i'm glad the talk helped! looks like we both will be trying again on new years! heres to hoping 2010 brings us all sticky babies! BIG ((HUGS)) girl!

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    hey crystal! 

    again, sorry for your loss! i'm glad the talk helped! looks like we both will be trying again on new years! heres to hoping 2010 brings us all sticky babies! BIG ((HUGS)) girl!

    Hey Hun, 

    I'm sorry for your loss as well but hopefully we will be able to help each other through the waiting to TTC again and then the wait for another BFP. I hope we both get KU very soon and have healthy 2010 babies!

    "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"

    Our TTC Journey

    BabyFetus Ticker

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    I'm a mom to my 4 angel babies who were taken from us much to soon!
    BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
    BFP# 2 on 03/21/2010 EDD 11/30/10 Natural M/C on 3/27/10
    BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl <3
    IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
    IVF#2 and Stims started 12/2 ER 12/16 ET 12/21 transferred two beautiful blastocysts. Please stick LO's! BFP 12/26
    Benjamin Matthew Our Little Miracle Born 9/5/2012!
    BFP 1/2/14 EDD 9/11/14

  • I'm sorry for your loss. It's great that you were able to discuss with your DH in depth and look forward to the future. We're also going to start trying again after New Year's so here's hoping we both have success in 2010!
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