It's 'V' day - I'm a little sad..

jettagurl

DH is having his vasectomy today - and although we made this decision together and responsibly, I'm a little sad.  Our family plan worked out just like we hoped....4 kids (2B, 2G), close in age, done having kids by the time I'm 30 (I'll be 30 in Dec), etc.... I'm just having a hard time knowing this is it.  I'll also be having the Essure done (like a tubal).   I think one of the major things I'm sad about is never being pg again....I really love that time, even my twin pg was rather uneventful and no bedrest. All that said, I'm excited to really be enjoying these 4 children we're blessed with raising, and we may even entertain the idea of domestic adoption in the future. 

So, thanks for reading my sob story - I just need to tell someone I'm a little sad about all of this.

 

amiamish

(((HUGS)))

neesernicole

I don't blame you for feeling that way. It's very final but it sounds like you're in a good place in your life and even better - no more hormonal birth control or worrying about an unplanned pregnancy.:) I think it's just another chapter to close and a new one to read. gl! 

stacynikki

I know how you feel.  I'm done after this one and I'm sad now even at the prospect.  Hugs!

s_angel

Awwww, hugs! wow - 4 kids all before you turn 30. That's a feat! Try to focus on how great you feel having accomplished exactly what you wanted. Many are not near so lucky.

jettagurl

s_angel:

Awwww, hugs! wow - 4 kids all before you turn 30. That's a feat! Try to focus on how great you feel having accomplished exactly what you wanted. Many are not near so lucky.

You are exactly right - and this is why I feel a little guilty about having these feelings.  I have been blessed beyond belief - a great husband, 4 perfectly healthy kids  - it's just hard to know that chapter is over...but deep down I know its over and I'm ready to move on to enjoying their childhood. 

 

 

 

DandR

I think its common to be completely sure about your decision but sad about it.  I was too.

That said....one day in the future you will come to realize that you are super happy about the decision and cannot imagine being pregnant or having a newborn.  I realized that about a year ago.  I don't even like holding other people's newborns I'm so over that stage of life.  And having mobile kids who sleep through the night and are easy is SOOOOO much fun!!!!  It just won't be tomorrow...give it some time.