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I had a friend over with her 4 yr. child this weekend and he was so aggressive (she blames other kids most of the time or says her son was born with a 'hair across his ass') and literally had two fingers up his nose and and one in his mouth the entire weekend.He head butted my son several times this weekend (and then laughed) and also knocked him over so that my son cracked his head on a marble floor.

I have a neighbor on my block and her 3 yr old is very angry, aggressive and whiney. He beats the crap out of both his parents and they never say a gd thing. I dread hanging out with them at this point and so does my DH. I babysit him sometimes and lay down the rules very clearly before we play inside or outside and he is just a regular, sweet/funny kid with his ups and downs -- once he figured out I'll follow through on the rules, he was no problem. I have never once seen his parents actually follow through on a single rule. So if they say, "put the stick down" at the park (they've said this about 400 times in one afternoon), they never actually make him put the stick down. ever. and no, I am not against kids holding sticks at the park -- but this kid beats the hell out of everyone with the stick!

and lastly, my other neighbor has a 3yr son who I swear, she KEEPS him immature. she is very lazy, straight out. EVERY battle is a battle not worth fighting...like sharing. She'd rather have him not share than go through the tantrum -- like, every time. Really? So now he is a tantruming maniac. everything is a frigging hour long debate about her angel son. for example, today she had to have a 30 min conversation with me about whether or not her son should come to my house to play trains. I finally just decided to leave.

I am not usually like this -- it's been a crappy week and I think it's only Monday. Plus DS's nanny spilled soap on my work laptop and fried it. so I just generally hate everyone today.,

and no, my son is so far from perfect and I am not a perfect mom, but I have just had it with other people's kids today.

vent over. please flame me. I may DD, but it's not from your flaming the hell out of me, it's just bc my neighbors might be around.

summerbrideDC

no flames from me--all of that would piss me off, too.

JOEBunny

I have one friend I don't talk to anymore because I can't take her nasty 4 year old, and the fact that she doesn't correct the behavior is ridiculous.  Really, it is not OK to say to another child, "I don't want to play with you, I don't like you, ect"  If you don't say anything or worse, you say "you don't have to play with so and so (whose home your are in.), then that makes you a parent who is teaching your child to be a brat, and I have no use for you.

 There I did it, I added to your vent.  Have a better night.  Sorry about your computer, I was just backing mine up because I am terrified of that.

oparcm

I feel your frustration.  My nephew gets told about 400x and the other night my almost 4 year old asked my sister, why she didn't just go grab the hockey stick away from him instead of telling him over and over.  I mean if a 3 year old can recognize the need to step it up........,,,,,,

Mominator

No flames from me. I hate when other people refuse to parent their children and then blame everyone else for their shortcomings.

joy143dh

We live on the same street, except on my street they are girls.  DH calls them 'the devils'.   "Oh look, honey, the devils are in our yard picking all the flowers again."   No discipline at any of their homes.  I posted a week ago about my experience babysitting one of them - who yelled at BD the entire night.

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joy143dh:

We live on the same street, except on my street they are girls.  DH calls them 'the devils'.

Us too, only we call them "the locusts." They just swarm and destroy.