Is this rude to you?

srex_ee

I don't have an issue with my IL's coming down, but here's how it went down:

"We're planning on coming down in November."

ok..when?

" We aren't sure when."

Do you know approximately when?

"  We can't give you an approximate.  Probably not the first two weeks, but it depends on when our windows and doors come in, and the weather." 

I don't have a problem with them coming.  I have a problem a bit with the fact that they have to stay in the one room of our house that is not insulated, is somewhat falling apart (plaster walls), smells dusty, has no bed in it, doesn't have a light...or grounded plug ins yet.  More so, don't normal people ask if it would be alright for them to come at such and such a time instead of telling you they are coming then, but being ambiguous of the when?  Then we were told it would be no shorter than a weekend, no longer than a week.  Now we have an approximate date, but the length is still undecided...oi  Like I had nothing better to do than to keep half of a month clear because of someone else's ambiguity!

katie_cj

I hate that.  My ILs do that a lot too.

I have to tell my FI to get a date, or else I'll plan something else.

My MIL was actually in town in September and didn't even see Jacob.  I had made other plans ages before and she gave us no warning.  Tough.

srex_ee

katie_cj@hotmail.com:

I hate that.  My ILs do that a lot too.

I have to tell my FI to get a date, or else I'll plan something else.

My MIL was actually in town in September and didn't even see Jacob.  I had made other plans ages before and she gave us no warning.  Tough.

I like the way you think!

RandZB

It is rude.  I would tell them that the guest room is nowhere near ready and if they want to visit then they better post up in a hotel. 

mrs.pelletier

totally rude and annoying too

jenn11980

Must be an IL thing.  MIL emailed me the other day.  She said she wanted to have us up for dinner and would have to let us know when.  She said it would probably be Oct, Nov or Dec.  It is just dinner and you can't decide between 3 months!  Ugh!  I told DH to tell her those months aren't good and we'll have to do it after the first of the year.  We have a ton of birthdays in Oct. and Nov and with Christmas in December I'm sure things will be crazy.

Your IL's can't stay at a hotel since the room isn't really ready for them to stay?

srex_ee

jenn11980:

Must be an IL thing.  MIL emailed me the other day.  She said she wanted to have us up for dinner and would have to let us know when.  She said it would probably be Oct, Nov or Dec.  It is just dinner and you can't decide between 3 months!  Ugh!  I told DH to tell her those months aren't good and we'll have to do it after the first of the year.  We have a ton of birthdays in Oct. and Nov and with Christmas in December I'm sure things will be crazy.

Your IL's can't stay at a hotel since the room isn't really ready for them to stay?

They told DH tonight that they're bringing a blow-up bed..lol

jenn11980

shanyzmac:

jenn11980:

Must be an IL thing.  MIL emailed me the other day.  She said she wanted to have us up for dinner and would have to let us know when.  She said it would probably be Oct, Nov or Dec.  It is just dinner and you can't decide between 3 months!  Ugh!  I told DH to tell her those months aren't good and we'll have to do it after the first of the year.  We have a ton of birthdays in Oct. and Nov and with Christmas in December I'm sure things will be crazy.

Your IL's can't stay at a hotel since the room isn't really ready for them to stay?

They told DH tonight that they're bringing a blow-up bed..lol

 Could you "accidentally" poke a hole in it?  A small one so it just deflates slowly overnight or is that just really mean?

stephelias

Sounds rude to me. The window and door thing is understandable, but for them to tell you they are coming down rather than ask if it was ok with you, is rude. I would never invite myself to stay at someone's house, family or not.

DEBBIE33CASEY

My ILs are like that too. It's like we live to be convenient for them.  We never even know for sure if they're coming until either that day or when they show up....the nerve of some people!

srex_ee

jenn11980:

shanyzmac:

jenn11980:

Must be an IL thing.  MIL emailed me the other day.  She said she wanted to have us up for dinner and would have to let us know when.  She said it would probably be Oct, Nov or Dec.  It is just dinner and you can't decide between 3 months!  Ugh!  I told DH to tell her those months aren't good and we'll have to do it after the first of the year.  We have a ton of birthdays in Oct. and Nov and with Christmas in December I'm sure things will be crazy.

Your IL's can't stay at a hotel since the room isn't really ready for them to stay?

They told DH tonight that they're bringing a blow-up bed..lol

 Could you "accidentally" poke a hole in it?  A small one so it just deflates slowly overnight or is that just really mean?

Well I do have a very active kitten who could "accidentally" get in there room...lol