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It's not going to get any easier, is it?

I'm 13 dpo today (based on OPKs and CM), and my LP last cycle was 12 days. Used a FRER and received a BFN. Talk about a let-down! This is our 5th cycle TTC and it's so hard not to get discouraged.

I don't post too often, but I spend a LOT of time lurking (probably way more than I should)...and I just want to thank GP for the support that you offer. It really helps to know that there are many others dealing with the same issues as DH and I are.

 

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Re: It's not going to get any easier, is it?

  • Sorry about the BFN.. but think about it.. when you DO get that BFP it will be that much sweeter!!!!!!!!! GL!Big Smile
  • Sorry to hear.  That's my biggest fear with things dragging out.  If one more person tells me there's nothing to worry about until after a year, I might strangle them.  The sad fact is if tests were run and came back normal, I'd calm down a lot and that would probably help things immensely.

    Where are you from in Western PA?  I grew up in Bedford County, but live in Boston now.

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  • Sorry about your BFN :( Just hang in there and see if AF comes to visit soon. Hopefully she will either show up so you can move onto next cycle asap, or a BFP will show up instead! :)
  • sorry about your BFN, GL next cycle
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  • Sorry about the BFN - they do suck.  It hasn't gotten easier per se for me, but I have gotten used to it so new cycles don't bother me as much as they used to.  Most of the time anyway.  Hopefully you won't have to wait much longer though.

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  • Sorry about your BFN. Don't give up....you never know how close you are to success. I agree with you however, it doesn't get easier!
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  • imagesept0305bride:

    Sorry to hear.  That's my biggest fear with things dragging out.  If one more person tells me there's nothing to worry about until after a year, I might strangle them.  The sad fact is if tests were run and came back normal, I'd calm down a lot and that would probably help things immensely.

    Where are you from in Western PA?  I grew up in Bedford County, but live in Boston now.

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  • Sorry about the bfn. I am cycle 11 and honestly it hasn't gotten any easier for me. We all try to cope with it as best we can.
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    I'm living in the Butler area right now. And I agree with you, I have this nagging worry in the back of my mind that something is wrong and if the tests could just be run and come back normal, I would also feel a TON more relaxed.

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  • {{{hugs}}} I don't think it does or can get any easier but don't get discouraged.  Just know that when you do get that BFP it will be so sweet.
  • I know what you mean about the year thing. ?A YEAR!! Oh wait, it's almost been that long for me. ?The worst part is that my doctor said she wouldn't recommend testing until it's been a year and 4 months because I haven't been using OPKS the entire time. ?We aren't alone though. ?This board has taught me that much.

    Another thing that people keep saying is to "try harder". ?FU!!! I'm trying as hard as I can!?


  • Sorry about the BFN... I'm on cycle 5 now, and this one is tough for me, but 3 and 4 were not... I think it just comes in waves. I'm sure BFNs on 5 and 6 will be tough.

    Good luck! 

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  • Sorry about the BFN-- chin up, you're not out 'til AF. ((hugs))
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  • imageat143tv:

    I know what you mean about the year thing.  A YEAR!! Oh wait, it's almost been that long for me.  The worst part is that my doctor said she wouldn't recommend testing until it's been a year and 4 months because I haven't been using OPKS the entire time.  We aren't alone though.  This board has taught me that much.

    Another thing that people keep saying is to "try harder".  FU!!! I'm trying as hard as I can! 


    For me the thing that is daunting about a year is that I changed SFRI meds and Concerta for ADD and such to get pregnant.  And I'm a major scatterbrain now or majorly hyper-focused---on getting pregnant.  Which stresses me out...which...you get the picture.  The idea of 1 year trying plus 9 months pregnant plus breastfeedings overwhelms me.

    I've already decided that if its a BFN this cycle, I am going back on the ADD meds at least the start of each cycle.  No need for me to be stressing unecessarily, the meds are gone within 24 hours of taking them.  Or I will talk to Dr. about a better med, if there is one, for me.

    Whereas, if they ran the basic tests (ie, SA for hubby and a uterine flush for me) I would really chill a lot.  I'm very pro-active and a "on-it" kind of gal, although I wasn't as "on-it" as I thought--I wish I had the IUD removed and started charting at the start of the year instead. 

    What I will be livid about is if we do this a year and then find out that there was something very simple and basic that could have been addressed earlier on.  The biggest horror story I know is that my DH's parents miscarried 3 TIMES and then the doctor thought to check my MIL's Rh factor.  Yup, she was a negative.  So much wasted stress and anguish all over not checking something simple.

  • Sorry about the BFN.  This is our 6th cycle TTC.  It definitely isn't easy.  However, I haven't been using FF for charting, so I am going to start.  Hopefully that will at least arm me with additional information. 

    I had medication I had to go off 3 months before we started TTC and my rheumatologist doesn't like the pain I have been having lately.  So, I am concerned that they are going to want me to go back on meds that would mean no TTC.  Alternatively, they have suggested a few "safe" meds I could get on.  However, I am already on some and I am worried about taking a lot of meds while TTC (and hopefully, eventually PG).

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    IVF #5:  MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #6:  (New RE):  Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN

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  • imagesept0305bride:
    imageat143tv:

    I know what you mean about the year thing.  A YEAR!! Oh wait, it's almost been that long for me.  The worst part is that my doctor said she wouldn't recommend testing until it's been a year and 4 months because I haven't been using OPKS the entire time.  We aren't alone though.  This board has taught me that much.

    Another thing that people keep saying is to "try harder".  FU!!! I'm trying as hard as I can! 


    For me the thing that is daunting about a year is that I changed SFRI meds and Concerta for ADD and such to get pregnant.  And I'm a major scatterbrain now or majorly hyper-focused---on getting pregnant.  Which stresses me out...which...you get the picture.  The idea of 1 year trying plus 9 months pregnant plus breastfeedings overwhelms me.

    I've already decided that if its a BFN this cycle, I am going back on the ADD meds at least the start of each cycle.  No need for me to be stressing unecessarily, the meds are gone within 24 hours of taking them.  Or I will talk to Dr. about a better med, if there is one, for me.

    Whereas, if they ran the basic tests (ie, SA for hubby and a uterine flush for me) I would really chill a lot.  I'm very pro-active and a "on-it" kind of gal, although I wasn't as "on-it" as I thought--I wish I had the IUD removed and started charting at the start of the year instead. 

    What I will be livid about is if we do this a year and then find out that there was something very simple and basic that could have been addressed earlier on.  The biggest horror story I know is that my DH's parents miscarried 3 TIMES and then the doctor thought to check my MIL's Rh factor.  Yup, she was a negative.  So much wasted stress and anguish all over not checking something simple.

    thanks for the novella. if anyone can get through it, i am sure it will be a nyt best seller.

  • Thank you so much for the supportive replies! GL to all of you!
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  • ?If I had those problems, I would want to stay on the meds to stay sane. ?It's hard enough obsessing about it as it is.?

    I'm not so into having dye injected into my vagina so I will probably wait it out. ?Is that a "Uterine Flush"? I probably won't let my DH wait that long to get tested though.?

    ?

    Forgot to tell Sunflower: Sorry about your BFN! ?I know it sucks!?

  • imagesept0305bride:
    imageat143tv:

    I know what you mean about the year thing.  A YEAR!! Oh wait, it's almost been that long for me.  The worst part is that my doctor said she wouldn't recommend testing until it's been a year and 4 months because I haven't been using OPKS the entire time.  We aren't alone though.  This board has taught me that much.

    Another thing that people keep saying is to "try harder".  FU!!! I'm trying as hard as I can! 


    For me the thing that is daunting about a year is that I changed SFRI meds and Concerta for ADD and such to get pregnant.  And I'm a major scatterbrain now or majorly hyper-focused---on getting pregnant.  Which stresses me out...which...you get the picture.  The idea of 1 year trying plus 9 months pregnant plus breastfeedings overwhelms me.

    I've already decided that if its a BFN this cycle, I am going back on the ADD meds at least the start of each cycle.  No need for me to be stressing unecessarily, the meds are gone within 24 hours of taking them.  Or I will talk to Dr. about a better med, if there is one, for me.

    Whereas, if they ran the basic tests (ie, SA for hubby and a uterine flush for me) I would really chill a lot.  I'm very pro-active and a "on-it" kind of gal, although I wasn't as "on-it" as I thought--I wish I had the IUD removed and started charting at the start of the year instead. 

    What I will be livid about is if we do this a year and then find out that there was something very simple and basic that could have been addressed earlier on.  The biggest horror story I know is that my DH's parents miscarried 3 TIMES and then the doctor thought to check my MIL's Rh factor.  Yup, she was a negative.  So much wasted stress and anguish all over not checking something simple.

    All you have to do is stay positive, remember?
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  • Sorry about BFN.  I don't post often either but do lurk alot.  It is fustrating after many cycles of trying and nothing. I think they should make a board for people less than a year ttc so that we newbies don't offend or annoy anyone that have been trying longer. I try not to get my hopes up so that I'm not disappointed but its really hard not to. Just have fun trying. Big Smile

    GL next cycle.

  • imagesweetpeep:

    Sorry about BFN.  I don't post often either but do lurk alot.  It is fustrating after many cycles of trying and nothing. I think they should make a board for people less than a year ttc so that we newbies don't offend or annoy anyone that have been trying longer. I try not to get my hopes up so that I'm not disappointed but its really hard not to. Just have fun trying. Big Smile

    GL next cycle.

    I completely agree.

  • imagesunflwer2004:

    I'm 13 dpo today (based on OPKs and CM), and my LP last cycle was 12 days. Used a FRER and received a BFN. Talk about a let-down! This is our 5th cycle TTC and it's so hard not to get discouraged.

    I don't post too often, but I spend a LOT of time lurking (probably way more than I should)...and I just want to thank GP for the support that you offer. It really helps to know that there are many others dealing with the same issues as DH and I are.

     

     

    Don't ever give up!  I know how hard it is from my own experience.  Hubby and I decided to just give it a rest after 13 months of heartbreak and tears only to learn we were expecting.  I have faith that everyone one of you will get your wishes.  Life is always full of surprises.

    Sending everyone of you lots of love and baby dust.  And great thanks to everyone who has done the same for me.

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