Am I being irrational...

Lady*Pink*

First, let me start by saying that I've been a lurker for almost a year and a half so I know all about the stupid questions, feel free to flame if you feel this is one of them.  But my husband is out of town on a hunting trip and is hard to get a hold of right now, and I have this irrational fear that something could go wrong at my appt on Wed and I'll be all alone.  With that being said here is where my fear stems from. 

While I know that everyone feels there baby at different times it totally freaks me out the my step sister who is 3 1/2 weeks behind me (so fifteen weeks) can feel her baby doing "flips in her tummy" and says her husband has felt it from the outside, while I haven't felt anything definite yet.  It just freaks me out because I know things can go wrong and you might not know until you go to the doctor for a routine visit.  So flame if you feel the need, but how would this make you feel?

Jessis62781

You said yourself every pregnancy is different.  You can't compare what's going on in your ute with what is going on in your SIL's.  It will drive you crazy.

Bring up your concern to your Dr.  I'm sure they will be able to assuage your feelings.

jensneb

I didn't feel my baby till 21 weeks so it's not abnormal not to have felt anything yet.  Go with your gut though, if you feel something is wrong try to go to doctor tomorrow. 

swimrbride

Are you being irrational? Probably

But I am the same way. Even though I feel him moving in there before my appointments I always get worried and wonder if something is wrong.  I think it is normal to have some irrational fears while you are pregnant.

P.S.- I didn't feel him move at all (or if I did I didn't know it) until 18 weeks and my doctor actually said not to expect it until 20 weeks.

Nicole731

The only advice I can give is everyone and every pregnancy is different. I felt my DS around 15 weeks (definitely not "flips" but taps and whatnot...and definitely not on the outside). So I was concerned when I wasn't feeling movement with my second pregnancy that early. I didn't feel movement with this one until after 18 weeks.

One way to ease your mind is to buy or rent a doppler. You can check on baby's heartbeat and that should provide some sort of reassurance.

robinsokj

My guess is that if the husband can feel it at 15 weeks they are full of it.  Dont be too hard on yourself.

Alex17

Ditto Jessis. Don't compare your symptoms/feelings etc to your SIL's. It will drive you insane.

If it makes you feel any better I didn't feel a thing until 20 weeks or so! 

idavis

You may have an anterior placenta, if so, it may take longer for you to feel movement.

armandos_girl

I flipped out before every appointment up until after my 20 week appointment when I could feel him move around and kick regularly.

FWIW, I felt him move at about 18 weeks, but it was super faint and was more of a buzz.  I didn't get kicks until 21 weeks or so.

Lady*Pink*

It just kind of freaks me out.  I don't have ms anymore to give me that reassurance. Who would have wanted that back?  But I guess maybe I'm just one of those who will feel it late.. But still feeling flips and 15 weeks?

weelass24

1. I think your SIL is full of it. I don't doubt that SHE can feel it, but her DH feeling it from the outside?  Doubtful, unless it she slept with a Cullen.

2. I'm sure you are fine.  Many women don't feel movement until later in the pregnancy. 

leslie13510

Feeling movement at 15 weeks is rare, and even if she's feeling it from the inside, I'm willing to bet that her H is feeling gas bubbles or something from the outside. 

I was just starting to randomly feel movement inside at 18 1/2 weeks, and that was with two of them in there.  I was about 22 weeks before it could be felt from the outside, and even then people weren't sure if they were actually feeling the babies or me breathing, moving, etc.

I'm sure things are fine, but no it's not irrational to be scared of the what ifs during pregnancy.  We all do it one way or another. 

Jessis62781

weelass24:

1. I think your SIL is full of it. I don't doubt that SHE can feel it, but her DH feeling it from the outside?  Doubtful, unless it she slept with a Cullen.

 

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Ashleyyyyy

Jessis62781:

weelass24:

1. I think your SIL is full of it. I don't doubt that SHE can feel it, but her DH feeling it from the outside?  Doubtful, unless it she slept with a Cullen.

 

::chokes on coffee::

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mrsadamc 05

ashley21babe:

Jessis62781:

weelass24:

1. I think your SIL is full of it. I don't doubt that SHE can feel it, but her DH feeling it from the outside?  Doubtful, unless it she slept with a Cullen.

 

::chokes on coffee::

::dies::

I totally skimmed your response the first time and didn't see that.

Awesome!