I really wish (whining)

jamie.renee

that my family was closer and bigger.  I feel like my kids are getting shorted sometimes since we don't have that.  All I have left in my family really is my mom, sister, 2 grandmas, and a few aunts, uncles, cousins we don't see all that much but I talk to 2 of my cousins through FB.

 I went to take something to my friend tonight and she had her parents, brother, and best friend from France there for the weekend.  They were all so sweet and close.  I know it sounds so silly but I get jealous about those things.  They don't even speak English (well her mom knows a little) but they were so friendly to me and my kids, trying to teach them words in German and English and things like that. 

Even on my husband's side there is only his mom (who I lost all respect for), his 10 or 11 year old sister, 2 brothers that are a little younger than me but are VERY immature, and older sister we both lost respect for, and an older "sister" we both love dearly.

I just had to whine about it.  I know there is nothing I can do but I still feel sad for my kids.  It was so hard on them when my dad died since other than my husband he was the only man they were close to.

chickiesha

I know the feeling ... I've only lived in the states about 3 years now and ALL my family is in another country except my sister but she's in NY and I'm in FL and I've barely made any friends since moving here I miss my family and friends soooooooo bad ... my mom's here with me now taking care of LO since I went back to work and I wish she'd be here forever

deeanneharris

You are not whining at all. I feel very lucky to have my family close (even though we are small). My ex-H was in the Army and I remember how rough it is. You seem like a very strong women and it sounds like you are doing a great job with your kids and are very supportive of your husband. ((hugs)) You can talk with us anytime you need to.

jamie.renee

Thank you guys.  It is just crazy knowing we are going to spend a ton of money to visit Omaha before we move to Washington but we don't even really have anyone there.  I have always wanted a big, close family but that will never happen.  I guess that is why it is so easy to be living in a different country away from family.  It has been even worse since my dad died.  Since then my mom and sister are no longer on speaking terms and my feelings for one grandma changed a lot when my grandpa was in the hospital the last few weeks before he died.  I should just be grateful for the amazing people I have met here and I know I will still talk to after we all leave Germany and will live in different states.  We are already planning our first get together and we are still here together!  

deeanneharris

I don't think you have to be blood related to be "family" either. It sounds like you have people in your life that really love you and your kids and that is wonderful.

katie_cj

I'm sorry, that's really rough. 

But I agree with other pp that family doesn't have to be blood relatives and great friends can be more supportive and more "family".

I would take pleasure in knowing that you are changing a leaf, you have a beautiful family and when your daughters grow up, they'll have each other and you and your DH to count on.

My parents and my brother are in Germany and I miss them tons, I know how that feels.

E-Hugs!