Please flame me.

stacynikki

Let me start by saying that I am so happy to be pregnant with a healthy baby and I am thrilled that DS is going to have a brother to grow up with.  I truly am excited to meet this little guy and can't wait to smother him with love and kisses.

But.

Everytime I see a "It's a Girl" post on 2nd tri I get jealous.  Everytime I see cute girl clothes when shopping for DS I get teary eyed knowing that I will never have a daughter and won't ever experience that mother daughter bond.  That I will never see her walk down the aisle or give birth to her own baby.

I know how incredibly blessed I am to have what I have and I don't want to diminish that because I realize how lucky I am.  I just need you to flame me so I can get past this sense of sadness and start enjoying what's to come.  I'm feeling guilty for even being a bit disappointed that I'm not having a girl. 

joseysbride

Don't worry, and don't feel guilty.  Many people feel like that.  The second you see him enter into this world, you will forget you ever felt that way!

butterbeansmama

Some girls do not have strong bonds with there mother's so there is no guarantee with that one.

Boys can very well have strong bonds with there mother's, Hell, I'm hoping that Preston and I have a strong bond the rest of his life.

I always thought I wanted one of each, but the more I think about it, the more I don't really care either way.

 

xbrooklyngrl

Its ok to feel like that. I know you will be thrilled when you see your little boy, but its ok to be sad about all the things you listed.

pincushions

butterbeansmama:

Some girls do not have strong bonds with there mother's so there is no guarantee with that one.

Boys can very well have strong bonds with there mother's, Hell, I'm hoping that Preston and I have a strong bond the rest of his life.

I always thought I wanted one of each, but the more I think about it, the more I don't really care either way.

 

This.

I love DD to pieces but prior to having my big US I was set for 2 boys. 2 best friends. 2 mama's boys.

I was a little upset when they said girl. I had already accepted that I may not have a girl. Of course they are fun to buy for but I think of the relationship I have with my sister and I really hope that Miles and Emilia can be that close.

DH and his brother are really close.

kittycarr

Trust me, you don't want a girl.  Girls are demanding, high maintenance, b*tchy, pissy, moody, attitude like you have no idea.

breezee_bean

I have 2-3 guy friends who are super close with their moms.  They love and respect more than some girls I have seen with their moms.  And, it's not a weird/total mama's boy type of thing either.  Their wives love their DH's moms moreso than their own moms. 

VivaAmore

joseysbride:

Don't worry, and don't feel guilty.  Many people feel like that.  The second you see him enter into this world, you will forget you ever felt that way!

Ditto this!

vet

no flame here!  I understand.  I want only girls...I have 2 and am pg, I hope with another girl.  I will be disappointed if it is a boy (intially).  I think it is normal to have an expectation and when things don't turn out the way one invisions it is disappointing.  But when you meet the little guy everything will be great and you won't be able to imagine having a different child!

 

Jessica

Catherine 10/23/04

Victoria 8/27/08

baby due 6/9/09

Glendi2.0

would telling you that I have listened to little else besides my 3 year-old daughter screaming at me, "NO! I will NOT DO THAT! You're not the boss of me!" with her hands on her hips make you feel any better? Seriously, I hear you... I had that same weird feeling when I found out #2 was a girl... no little boy to love me unconditionally forever, to tell me he wants to marry me (don't all little boys want to marry their moms?? Sooo cute.)

Maybe you can think about how cute your two little boys will be together... built-in best buds, you know? That made me get over the sadness a lot faster, thinking about how close my girls would be (of course, the reality has been a whole different situation- but that's another story!)

At any rate, no flames from me... you're just sad over what you're missing, not sad over what you're getting. Two totally different things, IMO. 

shopgirl78

I think they are all normal valid feelings.  I have a girl and I cried when they told me I was having another boy but I think another boy fits better into our lives.   You don't always get what you want but I believe you get what you need (to quote the Rolling Stones : )  Lots of positives to having two boys!  It'll turn out A-Ok. 

amiamish

Glendi:

you're just sad over what you're missing, not sad over what you're getting. Two totally different things, IMO. 

Oh perfect... that's exactly what I was thinking, just couldn't master the words like you did.

S-- don't feel bad, I'm sure MOST people feel the same way you do. I will, and I'll blow your phone up telling you so and you'll have to talk me down.

stacynikki

Thanks girls!  Your responses really helped to ease the unsettling feeling I've been having.  You are all so sweet!  And now I am off to see this little guy on the big screen at my checkup! 

amiamish

stacynikki:

Thanks girls!  Your responses really helped to ease the unsettling feeling I've been having.  You are all so sweet!  And now I am off to see this little guy on the big screen at my checkup! 

I'm gonna giggle if it turns out to be a girl...

stacynikki

amiamish:

stacynikki:

Thanks girls!  Your responses really helped to ease the unsettling feeling I've been having.  You are all so sweet!  And now I am off to see this little guy on the big screen at my checkup! 

I'm gonna giggle if it turns out to be a girl...

I wouldn't believe it even if she said it was a girl!  There is just no doubt in my mind this is a boy.  Not after two different techs saying it's a boy!

amiamish

stacynikki:

amiamish:

stacynikki:

Thanks girls!  Your responses really helped to ease the unsettling feeling I've been having.  You are all so sweet!  And now I am off to see this little guy on the big screen at my checkup! 

I'm gonna giggle if it turns out to be a girl...

I wouldn't believe it even if she said it was a girl!  There is just no doubt in my mind this is a boy.  Not after two different techs saying it's a boy!

Oh... two?! Boys are great, I'm on the fence still -- do I want a boy or a girl next. (Like I have any say in the matter) LOL I think brothers are awesome.

lsufan

I think I know exactly how you feel.  Your feelings right now are what they are, and there's nothing wrong with that.  But trust me when I tell you that when you see your boys interacting with each other, you will not once wish that your second had been a girl.  It took me a while to understand that I was feeding off of other people's expectations that I should feel disappointed that I'm not having a girl.  I also felt in some way that I wanted to experience something different, but my boys are as different from each other as they could be.  With both my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, though, I couldn't quite shake the feeling until my baby was born.  Don't feel guilty for feeling that sense of loss right now.

august0605bride

I felt the same way.  We are having a number 3, but if it's a boy, there'll be no #4, that's for sure!  You really will get over the sadness, I think, but I totally understand.