Horrible night! Vent!

missyjg

Hi, this is just a vent but I'd appreciate any input you ladies may have. And on top of that this is a DH vent so I know some of you are running from this post now.

Ok long story short, I was late for an appointment with a contractor we had coming to the house (10 min), contractor left and I called to rescheduled and apologized b/c I was stuck in traffic. DH got home and flipped out on me and then began ranting on how I'm not myself, I'm laying around alot, he's done with me being sick, house is a mess, i'm not pulling my weight, never want to do anything anymore blah blah blah. He's NEVER yelled at me like this, honestly we barely fight. My response: I'm pregnant and by the time I get home I'm quite exhausted.(I work f/t in a physically demanding job) His response: I'm quite aware of this!!

I was still struggling with severe m/s until last week when it's been letting up gradually, except for last night when I was sick again. He accused me of "milking it" and stormed out and I did the adult thing and stomped up to my room and slammed the door and unlike me..bawled. We actually slept in different beds last night, gasp.

Please tell me this was stress! What is wrong with this man and I need my husband back! (he's probably saying the same thing about me). How can I get him to understand..Ugh. Vent over. Thanks.

magdalina.h

Probably a mixture of stress and not fully understanding why you haven't been yourself lately.

justine09

I would probably have cried my eyes out. I couldn't imagine my DH talking to me like that. And if he dared to I'd better get one hell of an apology and maybe some ice cream! with as much as you guys have going on, he's prob stressing to and just needed a vent himself. But still no need to explode on you!

PurpleK26

You do need to just chalk this up to stress. DH and I had a few of these "conversations" as well.

I finally started to feel better around 16 weeks and the energy sort of came back around 18 weeks.

I think that it was probably just some built up frustration on his part, especially if you never fight. Now that he's let it out, he more than likely feels better and will be easier to be in the same room with for a while! Don't be surprised if it happens another time or two during the duration of your pg.

DH and I have been much better since I started to feel better, and I hope it will be the same for you! 

chazzgirl

I don't think it's really possible for your DH to understand just exactly HOW tired pregnancy can make you and how awful it is to feel like you have to puke all the time......

We've had some stress related fight doozies-and have taken time outs....and I always tell myself we still love each other...but, we are dealing with a lot.  In the end, we are together and we'll get through it.

 Hang in there girl...it will be okay. hugs.

Melly Mel

I think it is completely normal t he way he is reacting. Men just do not get it. They are not experiencing it and can't possibly understand how exhausting it is to be pregnant. It is a lot harder to do the tihings we used to. I am sure he feels bad and will calm down.

jhoanna.delgado

DH did this to me when we were around 10 wks. I yelled back at him saying that he doesn't understand what it is to be pregnant. I'm not being lazy and he needed to be more considerate. I also told him to read about pregnancy instead of looking at stupid cars on the comp all the time. That weekend he actually picked up a book, and that was the last time we argued about me "pulling my weight."

If he hasn't started reading, you should strongly recommend it. Also tell him he's not the one growing a baby so he can't possible know the emotional and physical changes you're going through. Don't apologize b/c it's not your fault.

missyjg

Thanks Ladies!!

StylishMom

Dh was like that in the beginning. But I started reading the babycenter week by week growth thing, to him for him to understand how the baby is growing, and what we might be experencing. Sometimes I even read the post from thebump so he understands its not just me...and he needs to just lighten up. It actually helped. Sometimes he'll still comment on things..and I just give him "the look" and he gets the point! lol