Team Green Moms ..A question!

VanessaRae9608

So I have been having anxiety the past few days about not knowing the sex...I will be thrilled with either sex and am super excited that Baby Tooch is healthy and growing on time!

However, I feel strongly that it is a girl and most people guess girl and I just hope if I have a boy I will be super excited and not just shocked that I was wrong at first...but I know I will be excited as well...this doesn't make much sense does it?

Don't get me wrong, I would LOVE a son, I just picture this LO being a girl.

Am I being ridiculous?! Anyone else feel strongly one way or the other??!

GTBrideKC

I don't have a strong feeling either way, yet.  I keep calling the baby "he", but then I have dreams it's a girl! 

If it's a boy, you might be surprised initially, but you'll get over it really quickly I'm sure.  My brother and SIL have 2 kids and didn't find out with either.  First one was a girl and her second pregnancy she was convinced it was a boy.  So convinced they didn't even have a girls name picked out.  Well, she turned out to be a girl too.  We could all hear the shock in their voices at first, but it wore off pretty quickly.

 

lovesinthehouse

I know I have a ways to go, so maybe the anxiety will kick in later, but I've been doing ok thinking of it as either/or. In the beginning, my subconscious would go to "he," and I always am drawn to the boy clothes at the stores. Once I realized it, I made sure when I thought of "him" in my mind, I thought "or her." I made the effort and nowadays, I can picture myself cuddling a boy or snuggling a girl. I know a lot can change in coming months though, but I'm trying to mentally be proactive so I don't subconsciously set myself up for some weird disappointment, even though I'd be happy with either.

I have a feeling once you're in labor, you will be so excited to find out what it is, that you'll have that to focus on. And once he/she's born, you'll be so grateful.

kristinem17

I don't have a strong feeling either way yet... based on OWT it could be either... we both would love a little girl, but having a boy would be just as fun!  The wait/suspense is definitely difficult at times.... and it doesn't help when friends try to guess based on what I eat, how I feel, the shape of my bump and the way my body is changing... I laugh it off and just smile to appease them.  I don't believe in any of that!   Maybe in a couple of months I might start to feel strongly one way or the other.

MsZoeB

I think I have had a pretty good either way attitude but DH is different. At first he said he wanted a girl, then we had our big u/s and in analyzing the tech's responses he is convinced it is a boy. He says that since he wants a girl he is trying to mentally prepare for a boy and then be pleasantly surprised either way.

We have a girls name but aren't sure on a boys name and for this reason alone I am convinced it will be a boy. 

I think I will have more anxiety the second or third time around if we get that far.

Eviebee

I don't have a strong feeling either way yet, I go back and forth depending on the day.  But I am a little worried that DH wants a son and I hope there won't be any underlying disappointment at the birth for him if it is a girl.  Not that I think he'll be upset, just maybe a tiny dark cloud in his head on an otherwise amazing day, that could have been accepted and put behind us if we did find out early.  It's something I'll have to discuss with him before the big u/s in case he agrees.

I am excited for either, I would love another little girl b/c they are amazing and I would love a little boy b/c I don't have one.  

Eviebee

Oh ya!  I just remembered last nights dream, Thank you! 

I dreamt that I got a sneak peak at the baby and found out it was a girl before they put her back in (gross yes I know, gotta love weird pg dreams).  And I decided to hide it from DH b/c I didn't want him to be disappointed, but had to think of something before her birth to change her into a boy for him.

So weird, I think it means I have to talk to him about my tiny fear.

MrsGhappilyeverafter

I understand what you're saying.  I'll be honest and say I really want a little girl, but I know in the long run, I want at least one of each so if I'll be just as happy if this baby is a boy.  I've had a feeling this baby is a boy, but sometimes I wonder if I'm just trying to convince myself that it could be a boy so I'm prepared.  I know I'll be happy no matter what we have and I feel guilty for even saying I have a preference.  I really don't have a preference, but for some reason, it's easier to picture myself having a little girl. 

kriesberg

MrsGhappilyeverafter:

I understand what you're saying.  I'll be honest and say I really want a little girl, but I know in the long run, I want at least one of each so if I'll be just as happy if this baby is a boy.  I've had a feeling this baby is a boy, but sometimes I wonder if I'm just trying to convince myself that it could be a boy so I'm prepared.  I know I'll be happy no matter what we have and I feel guilty for even saying I have a preference.  I really don't have a preference, but for some reason, it's easier to picture myself having a little girl. 

Why should you feel guilty with a preference?  I think every pregnant women deep down has a preference and every pregnant women want a happy and Healthy baby.  So don't feel guilty.

I'm going through exactly what you are going through, except my "mommy intuition" is saying girl and we both really want our first to be a boy.  I'm not sure why, but it's just what we both want.  Now don't get me wrong, we most definitely want a happy & healthy baby. 

So don't feel bad!  My anxiety comes and goes.

VanessaRae9608

kriesberg:

MrsGhappilyeverafter:

I understand what you're saying.  I'll be honest and say I really want a little girl, but I know in the long run, I want at least one of each so if I'll be just as happy if this baby is a boy.  I've had a feeling this baby is a boy, but sometimes I wonder if I'm just trying to convince myself that it could be a boy so I'm prepared.  I know I'll be happy no matter what we have and I feel guilty for even saying I have a preference.  I really don't have a preference, but for some reason, it's easier to picture myself having a little girl. 

Why should you feel guilty with a preference?  I think every pregnant women deep down has a preference and every pregnant women want a happy and Healthy baby.  So don't feel guilty.

I'm going through exactly what you are going through, except my "mommy intuition" is saying girl and we both really want our first to be a boy.  I'm not sure why, but it's just what we both want.  Now don't get me wrong, we most definitely want a happy & healthy baby. 

So don't feel bad!  My anxiety comes and goes.

This makes me feel SO much better and thank you to everyone that responded...I think I needed someone to tell me its ok to have a preference and not feel like a brat! I know I will be SUPER happy with either one!

Thank you everyone again! xo

CMM05

Here's some advice I can give you (since I was team green with DS and am team green again.....).

I did not have a *strong* feeling either way....I only said boy b/c DH's family is literally ALL boys. During my PG, I'm not going to lie....a little part of me was hoping for a girl.

When DS was born, I was instantly in love......and you will be too.

Again, this time, I think boy just b/c my PG has been very similar to DS's and everyone I know is having a girl, so I feel like I will have another boy. I really want a girl, but it doesn't matter.......once he/she comes out, I will fall in love again.

Everyone will tell you how "in love" you will be......but honestly, you can't understand it until you hold your LO for the first time. And, all of your "thoughts" about what you are having will disappear b/c you will have this perfect baby in your hands

GL to you!!!