changing doctor question....wwyd

wannabmommy

 

warning: long, but I'm looking for opinions! Thanks! 

I've been going to a male doctor for the past 3-4 years. He's been great. Always very personable and remembers what I do (career) and remembers the "little" things that we talk about during appointments...which to me shows that he takes time to know his patients. The deal is that I have a LO and it took 2 years of ttc with LO and about a year of ttc before my ectopic (then had a tube removed). I have endo and I had expressed concern about ttc when I saw him and he always said that I was young and he was not concerned and wouldn't ever refer me on to see anyone about it. He took a short sabatical and while he was gone I had a yearly exam and saw a diff doc. She was fabulous and after discussing issues of ttc and learning about my ectopic, she referred me to my RE. She said that she had family members who struggled w/ ttc and understood from seeing them going through things how hard it can be to just be in this waiting game.

So, my RE 'graduated' me back to my doc. However, I thought maybe I'd start seeing the doc that I saw while my doc was on sabatical (he's been back now for probably 3 months and I knew he was back). She has a ton of patients and it's hard to get in to see her (her office hours). I had a friend who has her as a doc and loves her.

So the issue is that over the weekend I was spotting and in more pain so I called the doc office today. My 'new' doc was gone today but my previous doc was available. So...I had an appointment with him. He totally remembered my career, etc and although he never said anything, I just felt awkward like I broke up with him without telling him or something. Stupid analogy, I just can't think of anything better.

The appt went great, he is a great doc and now I'm just wondering if I should just switch back to him. He was super nice during the appt (as he always had been) and I had an u/s. The only thing that burned me about him was that he always said that I still had lots of time of ttc before I needed to start to worry...and since I'm pregnant, should that just be water under the bridge? His office hours are more convenient to my work schedule too. My 'new' doc is super nice and I felt really comfortable with her, but her office hours aren't as conducive for my schedule/it's hard to get in to see her.

What would you do?

PurpleK26

Was there actually anything wrong that the RE had to 'fix'? If not, and it just took time like your dr. said it would, and you really like him. I'd probably go back to him. I mean, I understand going with someone you feel comfortable with and really like, and it's great if they connect and are sympathetic with you. But, if she has so many more patients, chances are, she won't always remember everything about you, your past, your job etc.

We considered switching OB's in our practice, only because we felt that one was more informative with us at our appts. We've decided to stick with our original because he's been through our mc with us, knows the history etc. He's really great too! Dr. #2 has seen me at my last 2 appts. because dr. #1 had to have surgery and was out for a month. They're both great. I hope if my dr. isn't available or on call when I deliver, Dr. #2 is. I've never met the 3rd one in their practice, so I'd prefer not him.

Basically, I'm rambling. You have to make this decision for yourself, but if you like them both equally on a personality level, then I'd look at the logics of who's available more etc. 

Scout05

My situation came about similiarly - my doc was on vacation when I got my BFP this time and I was too eager to wait. I ended up loving the doc I saw, and have made the decision to stick with him. He always calls me back quickly, his nurse (they work in teams) is sensitive and on top of things, and I just got a good vibe from him.

I think there is no wrong answer here - if you like this new but actually old doc, and trust him, you should feel fine switching. Just make sure his approach and yours mesh. That's all that matters.