interesting reading (my 1st c&p)

neesernicole

To all the martyrs on this board

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/23812690.aspx

 

Rebekah1021

You're right  - interesting reading

LestaMarie

Well, I guess it's like they all said - you either want kids or you don't.  For me, I have always wanted children and love being a mom.  But I do hear what they're saying on the moms always bitching about stuff...but that's what a lot of people do about life in general.  There's always something to complain about - children aren't an exception, especially since they have their own little minds and quirks.

emiliemadison

Huh. I guess I'm really lucky because I actually feel like I've had it really easy. I loved being pregnant, I enjoyed delivery, my nipples never cracked and bled and my kids are really great as far as kids go.Sure, I dont love every moment of parenthood, but who likes 100% of anything? I still get to do what I like to do; I havent given up "me" to be a parent.

That said, I'm not trying to recruit anyone to be a parent. I have friends who are CF by choice and I respect their choices, just as they respect mine. We're still friends and while my time isnt as "all mine" as it used to be, our friendships havent ended because we've chosen different paths.

Sure, I have definitely met "those women" (and men!) who can do nothing but b!tch and moan about their kids and their miserable lives and in the same breath, try to convince the person they're talking to that they NEED to have a baby because OMG, it's like the best thing ever!!! Those people annoy the ever loving sh!t out of me. But lets be fair; I've also met people who are CF who practically drip with disgust at the very idea that ANYONE would want to have a child. The disdain is not veiled, and it can be quite vicious. Makes no sense to me.

Some people feel drawn to have kids, some dont. That doesnt mean that one choice is better than another or that anyone is a martyr for venting once in a while.