Let's talk about sex....

jen-dale

Please tell me I am not the only one. I have pretty little interest in it these days. Not only that, but when I decided I needed to be a "good wife" and help out DH, I did not enjoy it. We have tried twice since I got out of 1st tri and both times it just wasn't good. It kind of hurts. And I feel like I am angled differently. Does that make sense?

Please tell me that eventually I will be able to enjoy it again....please?

AmysMelody

I wish I could reassure you, but I'm having the same problem.  I was all about it when we were TTC, and now it's like another chore on the list that I know I have to take care of, but it's not enjoyable and I don't look forward to it.  I'm starting to fear that I've "reached my peak"  Don't women do that in their 20's?

knelli

Hey Jen!

I am not a good wife right now either... we are averaging sex once a week.  And that is on the weekends like its a duty, not for fun!

Everytime a movie or show comments on how pg women get a huge urge in 2nd tri DH makes a big deal about how he got screwed out of that part of my pg.

erin1205

Well, you're all better wives than me!  I decided it's a no-no until the 2nd tri.  I think hubby is really counting down the days...

Lucky428

We have not had sex once this pregnancy.  In fact, we haven't had sex since Jan 20, the exact date we conceived DS.  Between being terrified and then pelvic rest, it just hasn't happened.

However, we have been intimate in other ways.  There are lots of ways to enjoy each other w/o actually having sex.   I'm so anxious to get our sex life back.   

vera1127

DH and I have gone weeks throughout this pregnancy without doing it. 2nd tri we were averaging a 2 or 3 times a week, but now it's probably once every few weeks. Sex is actually painful for me at times right now. We try to do other things, but my energy level is like zero right now between work, keeping up with the house, and getting ready for baby. I can say that my drive has come back and I find myself wishing we could have sex, but right now it's still more of a chore than something enjoyable.

Mrs. Diss

It does get better - I wasn't into it at all for a while but it comes back .

The angles are different, and I'm still learning, sometimes things don't work, but you figure it out. It'll get better!

mrsmiller06

Oh trust me, I think we have all been there! I totally didn't want anything to do with it for the longest time- and that was ok bc I wasn't allowed either. But then when I finally got the green light to go ahead, I seriously wanted nothing to do with it. Eventually the desire has come back- but I have to be honest when I say that it totally depends on the day and on my mood and there is no rhyme or reason to it at all. But now we are kinda at the point where even when I do really want it, it is hard to find a position that works right with the belly!

VanessaRae9608

Sorry to say that is how it STILL is for me I can't enjoy it - it just hurts and feels swollen or something...Hang in there My DH is very fine with it now!

MrsGhappilyeverafter

VanessaRae9608:

Sorry to say that is how it STILL is for me I can't enjoy it - it just hurts and feels swollen or something...Hang in there My DH is very fine with it now!

This is how I feel too.  It feels swollen and uncomfortable down there so it's not very enjoyable.  Most of the time I don't have any interest in sex because I feel crappy or have killer heartburn at night, but even when I actually want it, I don't enjoy it.  We average maybe once or twice a week, but like others have said, it's more of a chore.

MsZoeB

I know that I am late to this but I envy you girls for even giving in as a chore.

I have never really had a sex drive. I was hoping that I would fall into the 2nd tri surge but alas this has also eluded me. 

We did it once after the start of the second tri and it was just not enjoyable. I feel like I have so much mentally to overcome to even want to try. Plus all of the physical changes of the belly, swelling and just feeling unattractive. Dh is starting to joke but I know that he is frustrated, this has always been a sore spot for him.

Maybe this weekend I will have to try again. 

SPC2007

I think we have had sex 5 times this entire pregnancy.....its not even that I dont' want to its that I get super nervous and eventhough I know its ok I still freak and do not enjoy it.  I think maybe in the last few weeks I may enjoy it if I even want to do it then.  I can't wait to be all back to normal and back to our regular ways...although with a newborn baby around i am sure our sex life will lack a bit.

myafoo

I'm with Lucky.  DH & I have not had sex since we conceived this LO.  He wants to, but I am way too tired or nauseas all the time.  And unfortunately, when DH is "frustrated" his seduction methods are more of a turn off for me. 

I have been giving it alot of thought lately and I thinkI really want to try it with him over the weekend when I can be more relaxed.

Good luck Jen!  I believe the other girls when they say it will get better. 

garcia15

AmysMelody:

I'm starting to fear that I've "reached my peak"? Don't women do that in their 20's?

Nope, it's men that reach it in their 20s. ?It's much later for women.?