A trip to the urologist

angelananthony

We have been trying for about three years now and were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. There is nothing obviously wrong with me that the doctors can find, and while my husbands morphology was a little low, they said it was not anything that should prevent a pregnancy. We did the acupuncture, drugs and the IUI's and none of that worked. We decided to stop with the fertility treatments and go wholeheartedly towards our adoption. Before deciding on an agency, I really think he should go to a urologist for a check up and just make certain that he doesn't have something wrong that might be easily fixed. Our fertility doc said he didn't feel that was necessary though. I don't want to waste money that could go towards our adoption of course, and honestly don't really know what would be done at the appointment. Did you have your husband do this? Do you think it is smart? He's obviously had to do a handful of sperm analysis' over the past few years and there has been no change in them. Thoughts?

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Unless you're uninsured, a trip to the urologist to rule out a blockage or something would be covered by your regular copay -- so it shouldn't impact your adoption funds too much.

They most likely have an ultrasound machine on site to help.

Whether or not this is worth it or "smart" to do before you pursue adoption is 110% up to you guys.  You shouldn't pursue it until you're totally ready and have given yourself a chance to grieve your IF.  If one of you isn't ready or wants more answers, then you need to go that route and get those answers.

angelananthony

I have health insurance but my husband just started a new job and is without it. We are both fully on board to adopt, and spent the past year talking about it and getting excited before starting the process, but the places we have interviewed have made me a little nervous. They kept stressing that if we start the process and then get pregnant and wish to postpone, we will not get any of our investment back. I guess I just want to hear "it's not going to happen for you naturally" so I won't have that fear in the back of my head. It's the not having a reason why we couldn't get pregnant that bothers me.

kmkaull

We had a combination of issues regarding our infertility.  But my husband had severe Male Factor.  He was seen just by an IF doc (RE) who specialized in MF.  We felt comfortable with his opinion and treatment and didn't go to a urologist. 

MayDayGirl

I would call and see how much it would cost.  But honestly the decision is up to you guys.

CaseyLea

My DH went, it was a pretty low key thing.  They did a urinalysis, blood work up, prostate exam, reviewed his previous SA, asked some questions, etc.  DH's numbers were all on the low side, but there wasn't anything he found that he would recommend any kind of treatment for.  Sometimes it's nice to get another person's input on it, and it may not cost you any more than a co-pay (we paid that plus our 20% of the cost for the testing as is normal for our insurance).

Jessie*J

After my DH's SA showed MFI we just trusted the RE's diagnosis. We were told the odds that we had along with my diagnosis of PCOS and any more treatment seemed to be dragging it out. So, we decided to go towards adoption and put our money towards something real ... not the hopes of something real.

I will say this ---- I think for us it was harder to let go of TTC and move to adoption but once we did we can't believe we held out so long!

Gl with whatever you choose!

ColoRxGirl

MrsB2007:

Whether or not this is worth it or "smart" to do before you pursue adoption is 110% up to you guys.  You shouldn't pursue it until you're totally ready and have given yourself a chance to grieve your IF.  If one of you isn't ready or wants more answers, then you need to go that route and get those answers.

This.

Personally, I think the likelihood of a urologist finding some other cause is low.  But, if you need this for closure before moving on to another avenue to parenthood, then do so.  Like MrsB said, you have to mourn your IF before you are ready to look at adoption.