do I dare?

audrey10607

Hubby and I are trying for a baby after our loss in January..since the first one didn't work out and we're in our 30's..time is not on our side.

So...in theory I'd like to shoot for getting 2-3 kiddos in a compact period of time. 

Am I nuts? 

HarrietNJMommy

Hmmmm, not sure if you're nuts. It depends on a lot of factors! LOL!

I can tell you that it is VERY VERY tiring to have kids close in age - in the beginning (before the school years). I had 3 kids in 3 years - it was not what we really had planned (we wanted a bigger spacing between 2 and 3).  And having 3 kids is infinitely harder than having 2 kids, especially if they are spaced close in age. It's the logistics of being outnumbered, etc. 

There is no right answer. It's all about what you and your DH are willing to handle - mentally, physically, financially, etc.

GL in your decision and GL in your TTC!!! 

mlf625

I'm sorry for the loss of Nicholas.

I have quite a few friends with 2 (or 3!) little ones close together, and not ONE regrets going this route. ?Sure, they all admit it's hard and there are days they'd like to run and hide ... but you're going to have those days even if your kids are spaced further apart. ?My parents spaced 4.5 years between kids and there were definitely drawbacks there too (mainly, juggling a baby with a preschooler and grade schooler who wanted to be going and doing things!) ?We didn't plan for 2u2 but I couldn't be more excited and I know we'll survive! ?Good luck to you.?

howleyshell

First - I am so so sorry for your loss.  I've had several and I honestly don't know how you function after such a late loss.  My heart hurts for you.   

Ours are close because we felt we were running out of time.

I've never regretted it.

I love having them this close.  It's hard - especially in the beginning but the pros totally outweigh the cons for us.

My recommendation is to take one at a time.

Our plan was to wean at 6 months to TTC again and when the time came I just wasn't ready.  2 months later I was.

Trust your gut.