DH vent -weight related

hellopoppyseed

I was talking to my DH and telling him how I haven't been eating sweets or carbs in general because I'd like to slim down as soon as possible but I don't want to do anything that will affect my milk supply. So that is the big thing weighing against my desire to do some super food restrictions.  Then he said that my body's first priority is to make milk so even if I didn't eat for a couple of days, I would still make milk.  I said that from what I understand, it is important to get adequate calories and fluids in order to make enough milk.  It is very important to us that I breast feed so I want this to work. (Also there is a sensitive part of me that thinks he is saying maybe I shouldn't eat for 3 days or that I do need to diet-even though he said specifically that I don't need to worry about it)

I'm upset because I really don't need anyone to encourage the crazy thoughts I'm having about dieting.  I don't think he understands how I have the potential to be very obsessive about my weight.  I felt like he was giving me the go ahead to be obsessed.  In my right mind, I know I need to eat adequate calories for breast feeding.   I just don't think he gets it.

mrs.serrato85

Men can be so stupid about things like this. DH will often say things that really offend me and he honestly didnt mean it that way.

Mrslove78

What a jerk!  He's supposed to tell you, I love you no matter what, but do what makes you happy...  and how can I help?!  ASS holyo

jkipp82

i'm sorry dh is being like that.  i had a minor melt down about this the other day and dh says "you just had a baby (yeah, 2.5months ago!), don't have time to excercise, and still look great to me!  Go buy some clothes that will fit you now."....major bonus points!  Though I hate spending ANY money since we're building a house...so I bought 1 shirt for $8...

dragon_chica

Instead of being upset about it why don't you tell him?  I'm sure your DH isn't a mind reader.

hellopoppyseed

Thank you for the encouragement.  I did tell him I was upset and that I don't need him saying things like that.  I just don't think he can understand what it's like to have these crazy body changes.

dragon_chica

hellopoppyseed:

Thank you for the encouragement.  I did tell him I was upset and that I don't need him saying things like that.  I just don't think he can understand what it's like to have these crazy body changes.

I'm sure he will never truly understand what us women go through.  Heck, DH didn't consider himself a dad until LO was born whereas I already felt like a mom.  The point is your DH should at least be sympathetic to how you're feeling.  I hope he gets it through his noggin'.