Intro and a question!

JMH_squared

Hi all! After TTC to over a year we finally got our BFP on Friday the 18th! The cycle right after my HSG. It's been a crazy week and a half for sure! My first appointment is Oct 16th and it can't come soon enough :-) I can't wait for it to feel real! I look forward to getting to chat with you all!

 On to my question, I applied for and interviewed for an internal position 2 weeks prior to us finding out. Since it took so long to get here I didn't even think twice ... I accepted the new position this morning :-) Has anyone ever dealt with this? I feel like I should tell them right away or something but know I should wait until at least 12 weeks... should I wait even longer? Ugh! Talk about stress that I don't need! haha! 

 

cherylnicole

Congrats!  I would wait until 12 weeks though to tell your boss-either way they can't do anything (fire you, etc.) Unless you have really bad first tri symptoms, I would wait!

JMH_squared

Thanks for the welcome!

So far I've been feeling pretty good. My stomach has just been "off" but no major M/S or anything. I think I will wait at least the 12 weeks... just part of me is feeling guilty, though there was clearly no way to predict this would happen!

Kerianne1176

Hi JMH! Welcome to the board and to motherhood!  I am still beside myself and I learned my news on September 10th....I think I am really starting to annoy everyone around me with my constant baby babble. 

On to your question....Same thing happening for me. My husband and I had a plan to start looking aggressively for jobs when we returned from our honeymoon....Sept 1st!  We learned I was pregnant Sept 10.  I interviewed last week (although I am showing its not obvious) I said nothing.  The truth, to my knowledge is that they can't not hire you or fire you because you are pregnant but my experience says THEY DO! They just call it something else.  My sister in law was "Laid off" twice when she announced her pregnancies.  So I didnt risk it. I didnt say anything....and I am hoping not to until it becomes obvious or I have to plan for maternity leave.  Listen, in a perfect world, we wouldnt have to work but I know I am not living in a perfect world and you probably are not either. I need this job.  I will do what I need to to keep it.  I say, stay mum as long as you can.  They dont need to know you were already pregnant and pregnancy happens to people. Its not a contagious disease.  Good luck and welcome to the board! I look forward to sharing with you over the next 7-9 months.

JMH_squared

Thanks for the welcome :-) I think I'm really gonna like this board! I agree with you... although, not many people know so I'm just annoying myself with the constant baby babble in my head :-) ha!

 I appreciate the input on the work situation. It's been so crazy. The exact same day that I got my BFP is the day I was told that the position was going to be formally offered to me soon... and that happened today. I couldn't even process all of it that day! My sister-in-law agrees with you to wait as long as I possibly could, just in case. I certainly, like you, need this job and want it. In a perfect world we could be sitting here talking about staying at home, but that's not the case for me either :-) I will probably hold off as long as I can before it's "obvious", just in case they try to pull something. I want them to see that they don't want to lose me before I tell them :-) It's a newly created position that I think I will do well at and hopefully they will see that if I can get it up and running before spilling the beans!

I look forward to sharing the journey on here with you as well!