I have family and friends offering to come to help once the baby gets here- and I'm so happy to have the help but I also dont want to be a total zombie...so when did you welcome vistors? after 2 weeks or a month?
also I'm not doing flu shots- and since LO is coming in January- I want to limit his exposure to too many people...
Also when did you first venture out? I know the baby will have a doc appt but when did you go to a family function or just go to the store?
Re: When should people come?
Evan was born about a week before Thanksgiving...so we went to my sister's house for a little while (at the time she lived about two minutes from us) and then we did extended stays at my parents and ILs houses over Christmas when he was about 6 weeks old. We didn't venture out too much over the winter other than that.
This time....we'll probably wait until Easter to do anything big.
I really wouldn't make specific plans with people to come over and help - just see how it goes and how you feel. I liked the visitors that stayed for a couple of hours...but would have hated anything longer than that...esp with the early days of breastfeeding where my boobs were basically hanging out 24-7.
Don't worry about hurting people's feelings - they will understand and it's kinda tough sh!t if they don't.
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Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
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it depends, if you have family & friends that are offering to come and help you don't want them all to be there at the same time one week and then no one around the next. definitely try and stagger them out over a period of time.
don't worry about being a zombie, if you have family & friends there to help one of the things they can help with is letting you rest. my mom would come over and i would say hi, then head off to bed for a nap. you need your rest and chances are no one is there to see you when they can have the baby!
I figured you and K would be hospital visitors... (with margaritas)
My friends and family visited me in the hospital (and will again), and then it will be a few weeks before they visit again.
Honestly, it really depends on your recovery. Like I was bedridden and in really bad shape, in horrible horrible pain and really uncomfortable, so it was awkward to have people come hang out in our bedroom. To this day people still don't realize how bad it was. I was just out of it too because the pain really clouded everything for me.
But, this time around I'm hoping for better, and I'm actually looking forward to people coming to visit in the hospital, rather than my house. I don't want to worry about having stuff clean etc. at home.
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We had people come to the hospital. It did get to be a bit much. I had Liam on a Friday afternoon, so everyone visited Saturday. Since it was a weekend we had visitors all day long. It was exhausting and the nurses got a little mad cause they weren't able to do all the stuff they were supposed to with us during the day and had to do it that night after everyone left (they are supposed to show you a bunch of different things about taking care of the baby and yourself). Once home, my parents, sister and brother were there (they are from Buff and were staying with us). All but my mom left, who stayed till the following Friday to help out. I was so happy to have her help. I think we had some visitor the next weekend. The following week DH, my dad (who came back out from Buffalo) and my MIL all took off some time so someone was here every day with me to help. I think having the help for the first two weeks was prefect. I felt much better physically after that and had enough practice with Liam that I felt comfortable it just being us after that.
We first went out a week or so after Liam was born. Just quick to the grocery store and book store. I can't remember when we started going out more regularily. I think it was gradual. Early on I just tried to keep him overed, so people wouldn't touch him or put their face in close to him.
My MIL came the day we got home from the hospital. It was so great to have her take care of meals, laundry, etc. because I was trying to get used to being a mommy and still feeling very sick (and actually ended up back in the hospital). My mom stayed with us when I got out of the hospital the second time to help me with Ian while DH was at work. It was the best thing because I was still not feeling well and was very nervous being by myself with Ian. Besides, she was able to drive us to Ian's follow-up appts. at the pedi's.
I didn't really have any visitors until I was feeling better. Then I relished it because I was going stir-crazy not having any contact with anyone during the day.
As for when we took him out, I was probably a "bad mommy" and took him to Panera and the grocery store at 10 days old after his weigh-in at the pedi. I was so tired of being in the hospital or house since his birth, and it was a beautiful May day. Dh and I brought him to a restaurant maybe a week or so after that. Since your little one will be born in Jan., you may end up staying in for a while. You'll know when you're ready to give everything a try.
::packs salt and margarita glasses in her hospital visit bag::