OK, now I feel bad...what to do?

KGsky · September 2009

DD has a "thing" about sitting in a chair. They have these toddler chairs at school and she can sit in the chair at a little table. So cute! I swear these tables are like, a foot off the ground. So, she has started randomly finding objects around the house (shoe boxes, file boxes, anything about 6 - 8 inches high) and sitting on them. It's so cute, but I feel sorry for her that she doesn't have a place to sit. All the toddler chairs we've seen in the stores are too tall for her right now, so I asked FIL, who is very handy, if he could make her a chair like the ones she has at school. He's an engineer by trade, so I sent him a pic, and the specs from the website.

https://www.communityplaythings.com/products/chairs/medoit/index.html

Well, FIL is also, a little creative...which is not a bad thing, but what he came up with was significantly different from what I sent. As soon as she saw it, DD was excited about the chair and I was excited with her and we said "thank you, Papa!" DD scrambled over to try the chair out, but it was too high for her to sit in. I asked if he could lower it and he agreed it needed to be a little lower. Then, DD tried to sit in it again and it tipped over (because the dimensions were not proportional to the specs I sent him.) He also inexplicably put some artist's rendition of a ladies high-heel boot on either side, which I thought was fine, even though I didn't quite "get it." But so long as the thing is safe and DD can sit in it, I think it will be great.

Welll.....MIL calls DH last night to ask if I liked the chair, because FIL thought I didn't like it. Sad I felt so bad! It just wasn't what I was expecting--and it's too high and tips over! Embarrassed . DH responded that I did like it, but I still feel bad. I know FIL really put a lot of time and effort into the chair and it was definitely a labor of love. Now I don't know if I should pour on the praise--will that be fake?--or just let a sleeping dog lie? Poor FIL, his son had to marry a woman who is so "particular." LOL

ohwhattheheck · September 2009

eh, just tell them you really appreciate it and G loves it.

you've got to PIP...I'm trying to imagine the "artist's rendition" of the boot!

ManciniMom · September 2009

Just call them and reassure them that you love it and so does G

FYI Ikea has stuff like this

KGsky · September 2009

ohwhattheheck:

eh, just tell them you really appreciate it and G loves it.

you've got to PIP...I'm trying to imagine the "artist's rendition" of the boot!

Yeah, that will have to be a PIP...in order for you to truly appreciate it. Tongue Tied My IL's aesthetic tastes are NMS, but I try to just...go with it...because, well, we love them.

inbetweendreams · September 2009

I'm particular too, so I get it. Just call or write a note to say how much you and DD appreciate it. His heart was in the right place, so you don't want him feeling that you don't like it all, even if it's not quite what you had in mind.