UGH Need to Vent re: SILs Baby Shower

Crissyjo30

Backstory:  SIL is BSC to the MAX.  Super dramatic, loves attention, super emotional.  She is 39 and has 2 boys, aged 9 and 8.  After DD was born she got pregnant again - other SIL thinks its because she cant stand not being the center of attention.  This one is a girl.  I offered early on to throw her a "sprinkle" and it has turned into a couples shower.  A few weeks ago she told me she wants to have a diaper raffle.  Totally NMS and a little inappropriate for a 3rd baby, but whatever...its her shower.

So the other night I printed the invites out at my MILs and totally forgot about the diaper raffle.  I realized it last night and told DH I needed to open up the envelopes and but an insert in.  Today SIL saw the invites at MILs and goes INSANE telling MIL that she doesnt want a shower anymore, all she wanted was a GD diaper raffle and I can't even do that.  Cancel the whole thing, blah blah blah I hate Cristina blah blah blah now I'm stressing out my baby bc she is making me so upset.  MIL tells her to suck it up and have some manners - be grateful you are even getting a shower.  She then tells me that I have her "permission" to cancel the event. 

I would never cancel it, but I am so over the whole thing now.  I had been planning on making all the food myself (I'm a pretty good cook) and making diaper cakes as centerpieces myself but I really don't want to put anymore effort into her party.  Obviously its not appreciated.

 

vent over...sorry if you got this far.

PD's_Momma

I am sorry she is putting you thru this. I would go ahead and cancel the shower. Heck, what princess wants princess get's!

LoriFalce

Okay...

SIL is, in fact, a biitch.

I have never heard of a diaper raffle.

For such a drama queen, I would think a full-on shower would be the ultimate "look at me" moment...outside of getting remarried on a Ferris wheel or something.

You are a better SIL than she deserves.

jamie5315

Wow! I would cancel it!

Nancy_Louise

PD's_Momma:

I am sorry she is putting you thru this. I would go ahead and cancel the shower. Heck, what princess wants princess get's!

 

This.  Definately.

franciscaz

I am dying to know, why in the world did you ever offer to hold this beaotch a shower???  Personally I would cancel it. 

jilley

Wow, you are a much better person than me b/c I would cancel that sh!t so fast! Good luck if you stick with it though. You sound like an awesome SIL and she definitely sounds a little BSC.

Toosdai

Why in the hell would you still throw this shower? She does not deserve anything at all. Don't be a doormat girl, cancel that shiit!

Crissyjo30

*francisca*:

I am dying to know, why in the world did you ever offer to hold this beaotch a shower???  Personally I would cancel it. 

I'm really doing it for my little neice.  I want to make sure she has some nice things when she comes into this world, since her mother is such a piece of work.  We went on a family trip to the caribbean last month and she bought herself a ridiculous diamond necklace.  The baby has NOTHING except for a hand me down carseat from us and she is buying herself diamonds!  It kills me! 

franciscaz

Crissyjo30:

*francisca*:

I am dying to know, why in the world did you ever offer to hold this beaotch a shower???  Personally I would cancel it. 

I'm really doing it for my little neice.  I want to make sure she has some nice things when she comes into this world, since her mother is such a piece of work.  We went on a family trip to the caribbean last month and she bought herself a ridiculous diamond necklace.  The baby has NOTHING except for a hand me down carseat from us and she is buying herself diamonds!  It kills me! 

That makes sense.  You are a neat girl!

kirbabe

Cancel it!  What an uber ungrateful biznatch!!!  She doesn't deserve for you to spend time, effort, or money on a shower for her.  She said she wants it cancelled, I'm sure she doesn't really, but cancel it and make sure she knows you're just following her request!

I have no clue what a diaper raffle is.  Do you get your name entered in a drawing for a prize if you bring a pack of diapers? 

Crissyjo30

kirbabe:

I have no clue what a diaper raffle is.  Do you get your name entered in a drawing for a prize if you bring a pack of diapers? 

 

Yeah.  Spend $15 on a pack of diapers and you can win some generic starbucks gift card with a bonus coffee mug!  AWESOME!  Personally, I think its so rude to ask someone to spend the day at your party, bring a gift, AND buy diapers.  Diapers are expensive! 

kirbabe

Crissyjo30:

kirbabe:

I have no clue what a diaper raffle is.  Do you get your name entered in a drawing for a prize if you bring a pack of diapers? 

 

Yeah.  Spend $15 on a pack of diapers and you can win some generic starbucks gift card with a bonus coffee mug!  AWESOME!  Personally, I think its so rude to ask someone to spend the day at your party, bring a gift, AND buy diapers.  Diapers are expensive! 

I find this incredibly tacky as well!  I don't know about everyone else, but if I were invited to a shower where they did this, it would just mean they wouldn't be getting a very nice gift from me. . .

Crissyjo30

kirbabe:

Crissyjo30:

kirbabe:

I have no clue what a diaper raffle is.  Do you get your name entered in a drawing for a prize if you bring a pack of diapers? 

 

Yeah.  Spend $15 on a pack of diapers and you can win some generic starbucks gift card with a bonus coffee mug!  AWESOME!  Personally, I think its so rude to ask someone to spend the day at your party, bring a gift, AND buy diapers.  Diapers are expensive! 

I find this incredibly tacky as well!  I don't know about everyone else, but if I were invited to a shower where they did this, it would just mean they wouldn't be getting a very nice gift from me. . .

Exactly!  And she is so amped on it.  I know that buying diapers is a PITA, but its a part of life.  Wouldn't you rather get something a little nicer for your baby?

Shell24

She was mad and in the heat of the moment said for you to cancel the whole thing.  I can guarantee she is just dramatic and didn't really mean it. Which is exactly why you SHOULD cancel it.  Call her bluff and teach her a lesson.

I know you'll still go through with it for your niece...you are a much nicer person than I! 

kirbabe

Crissyjo30:

 

Exactly!  And she is so amped on it.  I know that buying diapers is a PITA, but its a part of life.  Wouldn't you rather get something a little nicer for your baby?

I know I would. 

On a side note.  The best baby advice DH or I got (when I was pregnant), was everytime we went to the grocery store, buy a pack of diapers.  His friend suggested it, so we started doing it about halfway through.  It was great.  We didn't have to buy diapers for months.  I also taped every receipt to the pack of diapers, in case we had to return or exchange some. 

J+O

I would have also cancelled it... and maybe next time she'll think twice before throwing a fit.?

BartsGirl

I think I would cancel it.  Then, so your niece still has some nice things, I would spend about half of the party budget on nice things for the baby.  Her mother just doens't deserve for you to be so sweet.

LaLaSweets

PD's_Momma:

I am sorry she is putting you thru this. I would go ahead and cancel the shower. Heck, what princess wants princess get's!

I agree with post!!! What a Biotch!

CreamPuff06

BartsGirl:

I think I would cancel it.  Then, so your niece still has some nice things, I would spend about half of the party budget on nice things for the baby.  Her mother just doens't deserve for you to be so sweet.

I would do this as well, and let your MIL know that's what you're doing; maybe she'll go in with you on some things.  Your SIL really doesn't deserve you or the shower you're throwing her, but your little niece does.  GL with this.