I was wondering..

baze2

If I am the only one who is feeling discouraged.??? I feel like this BFP will never happen. AF came today (A day early with literally no symptoms..) I was just wondering if anyone has felt this way?

hollymichael

Oh yes, I feel like this frequently.  I just can't imagine ever seeing two lines on a pregnancy test.  Sometimes, I go lurk on SAIF just to see all the women who had trouble eventually have success.  It makes me feel better.  I figure they probably felt like this a lot too.

Sorry about AF.

NowDNAtoo

When I was TTC #1 I felt like that every single month for a total of almost 17 months.  I know that's not as long as some people, but it does start to get to you. 

Try to keep your chin up--you all are headed in the right direction and your DH's latest prognosis are making things so much more possible!

FrannyS

No you are not.  I am too. I feel exactly like you. I have AF symptoms today and know she is coming.  For the first time in my life, I am really starting to think that a BFP may never happen for me (or at least not without a lot of ART intervention).

Keep hanging in there though.  I do know a lot of stories of couples who felt hopeless and ended up pg one way or another!

Strunella

I think it may not happen for me at least once a day.  And I'm just getting started with everything, but my [old] age is really making me feel discouraged.  I'm already thinking about the financial implications of treatments and/or adoption and I haven't even been to the RE yet.  ::sigh::

 

MAH123

Soooo discouraged, my beta was actually up marginally today...3 days post methotrexate, arg! Re told us IVF is our only option at this point due to my tubes being shot (no trouble getting ku, just KU in my uterus and then getting it to stick). DH has agreed to the 3rd and final round of IVF (all oop), so that's looming in the distant future. Still have to have the post pg follow up with the re, but my beta has to be negative. On another note, a girl at work today was complaining about being 12 weeks and still not sure if she wants to have kids....moral victory, I refrained from kicking her in the hoo-ha. Hang in there, this board has been a lifesaver for me.   

smilee

Sadly, at this point, I feel this way on a daily basis.

I feel like it is going to take a miracle to get and keep me PG.  

baze2

It is comforting to here your responses..today I just feel hopeless..how did CathyMD put it...onward!!!! Tommorrow may be a better day.

princess_shelly

I feel ya!  Especially this last time!

hav2run

Ummm...yes.  I am right there with you.  I was very very upset with my last cycle, BFN, AF.  It took me a few days (and wine) to move beyond it.   I also felt the same before my BFP with DD.  That was the longest 2 years ever.  I may be in it for 2 years this time too.    Very depressing...

GBW

Like hav2run, this has been the longest two years of my life too - but even if I have the thought that this will never happen - even for a fleeting moment - I stop myself from thinking it immediately.  I am very, very hopeful that this WILL happen for me.  I won't lie, it's very hard to be in this position, but I remain hopeful no matter what...

AmyeJean

In Feb I hit 5 years in TTC.. it's been the longest and ruffest 5 years of my life. I cry now everytime I get a bfn as I feel like it's never going to happen. I feel bad for my husband cause he wants kids and I'm the reason it's not happening.

ToshaGirl

baze2:

It is comforting to here your responses..today I just feel hopeless..how did CathyMD put it...onward!!!! Tommorrow may be a better day.

That's it. Onwards. What else can one do?

I hope you feel alittle better today Baze babes.

Amy&Steve0421

Yes - I have felt this way.  I think it is quite common...kind of a roller coaster ride of emotions each cycle....

(((HUGS)))

taratru

Yep, and I think it's normal.  I have days where I just can't even *fathom* wtf is going on...I mean, I have two kids already, what is so hard about making another one?!? 

Then I have to remind myself that I'm not in the driver's seat on this and take one day at a time.

joyfulnature

Amye,

I'm sure your DH has said this to you, but let me say it, anyway:

 Your husband would rather be with you than anyone else in the world - reproductive issues or not.

(((hugs)))

 

joyfulnature

Hi, Baze.

I hope you're feeling better today!

I certainly feel discouraged at times. It's hard not too, when it's the same old cycle of determination, then hope, then disappointment month after month. It's emotionally draining.

What has helped me, other than the fantastic women on this board, is to give myself permission to take a break  whenever I feel I need to.

This month, for example, I'm not temping. I didn't feel like it, that's why! 

AmyeJean

joyfulnature:

Amye,

I'm sure your DH has said this to you, but let me say it, anyway:

 Your husband would rather be with you than anyone else in the world - reproductive issues or not.

(((hugs)))

 

 

Awww thats so sweet. Thanks.

I know he don't judge me but I know it hurts him as it does me when we have another fail. Big thing is his parents are in their 70's so he wants them to know their granschildren before they pass and sometimes it's alot of pressure on me when we fail.

Hoping this October will be lucky one though.

joyfulnature

AmyeJean:

joyfulnature:

Amye,

I'm sure your DH has said this to you, but let me say it, anyway:

 Your husband would rather be with you than anyone else in the world - reproductive issues or not.

(((hugs)))

 

Awww thats so sweet. Thanks.

I know he don't judge me but I know it hurts him as it does me when we have another fail. Big thing is his parents are in their 70's so he wants them to know their granschildren before they pass and sometimes it's alot of pressure on me when we fail.

Hoping this October will be lucky one though.

I'm hoping October will be lucky for you, too - and that his parents live a good, long time and get to enjoy many years with the grands!

Medtwin

Most definitely! With my recent BFN where I was soo very hopeful & felt I put my whole heart & soul into that cycle, I would've never thought I'd be in a position to do it all over again.  It's so very stressful!!  I wish those that have BFP so much luck & i'm not envious of my sister (who's due with her 2nd any minute); or my other 2 good friends who are about 6w preg.. one with twins, and the husband didn't even want to try for ONE more.. but it sure is devastating.  very discouraged here too!

LizzyB11

You are definitely not the only one feeling that way! I am actually hopeful this month (FF gave us a "high" chance of success and I took my femara). I got down in the dumps when I realized that we started this journey over a year ago. I keep telling myself that it WILL happen. I have to remind myself that my friends/cousin who got pregnant without planning it have had a life change they weren't counting on, etc. It is so incredibly hard some times to keep your chin up and your attitude positive. I am just thankful that I have this board to vent to!

baze2

Thanks...I think we are all in the same boat...I have decided to go down fighting!!! October is pointless..I will be in Atlanta for the week of O..On to November..

shyntrue

Yup... that is one reason I haven't been posting too much lately.  Tired of being a debbie downer, kind of taking a break from posting....  But, as always wishing everybody the best of luck!!!!

sel*stella

I struggle with staying positive too, and sometimes I feel like giving up. That's what we're all here for- to keep each other up and to move onward as CathyMD says.