baby name stealer

Hannah2016

I just logged on to facebook. There in the newsfeed is an announcement from an old friend who is finding out tomorrow whether they're have a "John or an Abigail."

problem #1: Abigail is my baby girl name! We're keeping our names secret until the baby is born so she doesn't know that, but still...

problem #2: that old friend and I used to "best-friends-forever" and the friendship did not end nicely. we later reconciled civily but there's still awkwardness.

problem #3: the old's friend is also named hannah!!! so how weird would it be if she, named hannah, had a girl, named abigail, and then months later I announce that I, named hannah, am nameing my girl abigail?

I'm quite mad. Also, unrelated to this, I slept max 4 hours last night and was sobbing this morning and DH told me to stay home from work. So... that could have something to do with it, too. I just really hope she finds out she's having a boy. Of course then she could call me a the name stealer.

Lauryn216

Abigail is a pretty common, classic name. I doubt she'll think anything of it and even if she does, you're not friends so I wouldn't worry about it! Hope you feel better!

velvetflip

See, I would go out of my way to say something now, so she doesn't think you are a name stealer. ?Say something like, "Oh that's so funny....I guess we are just like our moms, because Abigail is one of our top girl names too"! ?Just get it out there now. ?Since she is not as good a friend as she used to be, it shouldn't really be an issue.

Ciconrad

I guess I don't understand why you are mad at her because she choose a name that she had no idea you were considering.  If you are going to blame her for not reading your mind, then I would say you are the name stealer since she is due before you.  It's also not her fault that you both have the same first name.  Just saying....

CoastieWife08

I understand it is annoying, but there will only be one of your Abigails.

There are going to be 1,000's of people with your child's name and it'll annoy you each time you hear it.  But, there will only be one Abigail that is yours, and children are defined more by their personality than their name.

I'd be mad if you had discussed it together or something, but this is just a strange coincidence.  And, who knows, she may have a boy, and then you don't have to even think about it.   Also, it is early on.  You may or she may like a different name 5 months from now.

Take a deep breath and move on.

missdanib

I am sorry that you're upset, but really.  This is like getting mad becasue you found out your friend wasts to get married the same time as you even though you never told her.  She technically hasn't "stolen" your name, since you never told her that you planned on using it.  Also, there are many thousands of little girls named Abigail, would not be the end of the world if you both chose this name. And yes, chances are if she has a boy she will call you a name stealer since she did announce it.  I know it's hard with little sleep and hormones running amok, but I would let this one go.

lococo

velvetflip:

See, I would go out of my way to say something now, so she doesn't think you are a name stealer.  Say something like, "Oh that's so funny....I guess we are just like our moms, because Abigail is one of our top girl names too"!  Just get it out there now.  Since she is not as good a friend as she used to be, it shouldn't really be an issue.

 I agree here... 

mfransdell

I wouldnt worry about it. I mean Abigail is on the Top 10  girls names list. Besides over the next 9 months you may change your mind a million times.

TheFutureMrsBeck

Very petty & immature.  Not trying to insult you, just stating the obvious since this friend or ex-friend had absolutely no idea Abigail was a name you wanted to use.

lisa5201

I understand why your upset, it would bother me too! 

Fingers crossed she (or you) have a boy.... Your not considering John though, right?

 

 

mjm123

If you found this out via facebook, you probably don't talk to her anymore. Why don't you just unfriend her?

laurmar21

If I understand you correctly, you aren't saying she stole your name...you're concerned she will think this of you.  But...I don't think you should worry about it!  I agree-- there will be others with the same name...and only one of them will be your Abigail.  And this stuff happens...you know?  But I don't think you should feel like you are stealing her name...you know you aren't...and that's all that matters!  

urbanwifey

1. You're not going to see her every day.

2. You might not have a girl.

bobbidall

PP's I think op is concerned about being called a baby name stealer. 

OP, i wouldn't worry about it until you find out what it is going to be. 

LisalovesDarren

I say, "Who cares?!" It's YOUR baby. And besides, you said you weren't even friends anymore. It's not like it's your sister who wants to name the baby the same thing. I wouldn't stress over FB drama.  Just name her Abigail if it's a girl That's what I would do....

Alyssa102

As annoying as that is...If you guys really aren't that good of friends anymore, I say use the name...what are the chances your kid and her kid are going to hang out?  I mean...do you even hang out with her anymore?

bnljane1988

I understand it's annoying, and maybe more upsetting because your hormones are crazy right now.

BUT, in the grand scheme of things.  It's really not that big of a deal.  It is a very classic and common name (I actually have 2 employees named Abigail and I know several more).  Your baby IS going to share their name with someone else in the world.  Sorry, it may be a good friend, but I'm not one to think there is a lot validity in the concept of "stealing names."

Hannah2016

thanks guys. I know this is fueled by hormones because it's only been an hour since i found out and I already am a lot less bothered by it all. I guess I also needed to vent to people i could tell the name too.

I guess I am more worried about her thinking i stole her name. But... I don't hang out with her any more, and i could just defriend her. It's funny how childhood stuff comes out so strong sometimes. I was always called Hannah #2 when we hung out and she always acted so superior to me. I guess I'm just a little frustrated that she got it first and I am still a little concerned what her and her family will think of me. I just need to let it go.

Soulfulheart24

For the people calling her petty, She did say that she didn't sleep last night and was pretty emotional today so as another prego I totally understand why shes upset..haven't we all had irrational thoughts? With that being said I agree that b/c she didn't know, you can't be too upset but then again being that you guys are both prego at the same time and b/c your relantionship didn't end nicely you might just have lingering anger of some sort...Plus I mean cmon naming your child is so important its pretty easy to become defensive!!

 I speak from expierence b/c a "friend" of mine who I have talked to about the name I'd give to my daughter{Lily Anne} all of a sudden had a grandmother named Lily Anne months later{whom I'd never heard her talk about}  and said if she had a baby girl she'd name her that and acted like I'd never said that was my name..worst part is she isn't or doesn't plan on being pregnant anytime soon and tried to give it to some other girl as an idea and got mad b/c I said if this is a girl her name will be Lily Anne..people are crazy!! lol

Pickybod

velvetflip:

See, I would go out of my way to say something now, so she doesn't think you are a name stealer.  Say something like, "Oh that's so funny....I guess we are just like our moms, because Abigail is one of our top girl names too"!  Just get it out there now.  Since she is not as good a friend as she used to be, it shouldn't really be an issue.

I would do this and not worry about it anymore.

Aliki

TheFutureMrsBeck:

Very petty & immature.  Not trying to insult you, just stating the obvious since this friend or ex-friend had absolutely no idea Abigail was a name you wanted to use.

Agree. Unless your post implies that YOU are the baby stealer, since they had no idea that was the name you picked, and if in fact you choose that name, you'd be technically "stealing" from them.