RP: The importance of the NT Scan
I posted this on the 1st tri board...because I read a lot of people going back and forth on the NT Test...I wanted to share this with all of you as well so that you know what I have been through and am going through.
IF YOU ARE EASILY UPSET PLEASE DO NOT READ!!! I AM NOT TRYING TO GET ANYONE MORE FREAKED OUT
Please do not read if you are easily upset....but I wanted to share...and please no flames
This week has been a rough week. I was just about to hit 12 weeks and very excited to finally share the news with all of my friends and family. I had the glucose test last week early because I had, had GD last time and was so thrilled because I past the test. However they found out that my cervix was inflamed so I had to take some cream to calm it down.
The cream led to spotting so I had to see my obgyn on Wed. It was all about my cervix and I saw my baby dancing around and was happy again.
Thursday I went for the optional NT Scan. I always think it is better to be prepared then anything else. I have a healthy son and did it with him as well. Not to mention their sonos are 100 times better.
So my husband and sister went with me and they measured the baby and gave me no inclination that anything was wrong. I was just so happy to see a healthy beating heart that was all that mattered.
Fast forward to yesterday morning. I was getting my son ready for school when the perinatologist called. He must not have been in yesterday because I am assuming the sono tech would have brought him right in. He told me he thought he saw a problem with the baby's abdominal wall. He thought it was not forming right.
We rushed to his office...and I was trying to stay positive because in some cases he said it could be fixed right after birth and those babies do very well.
After having another sono we could all see what I was afraid of. The stomach was not closed. This is a Dr I trust with my life and he thinks I have a very bad case of this abdominal wall defect which would mean a more than 30% chance of other chromosonal defects. He said we had options...and could wait till 20 weeks to find out more but then at 22 weeks we could find out there are other heart and brain issues.
It was with more pain then I can explain in words that we have decided to terminate. He does not think this baby would be viable outside and that is a pain I am not willing to put myself or my family through.
A very hard part for me has been that I had just announced to everyone the day before that I was pg and was so excited. Now this time next week I will not be.
The Dr said this happens about once or twice a year and is just a fluke thing. He said we have a 1% chance of it happening again but those are about the same odds as everyone else. For some reason I could not win the lottery but this is what I got.
He also said we can try again in 3 months if we want...and I just want to get to tuesday and have it over with...I have not stopped crying about my broken baby...and I know this is the right choice for us.
I am scared at the thought of what if I had waited.
Anyway I just wanted to share because I know some people go back and forth on the importance of this test. For most people it will come out fine...it is just so important for piece of mind.
a very heart broken,
Beth
Re: RP: The importance of the NT Scan
Beth - you are very brave and strong for posting this and letting others know what you are going through. My heart hurts for you and this impossible situation you are faced with. I am so sorry that this was not meant to be
I will be thinking of you and your family.
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Ohhh Beth, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Thanks for posting your story. My heart hurts for you and your family and of course your little baby. My prayers and thoughts are with all of you.
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I am so sorry Beth. Thank you so much for sharing this with everyone. My doctor also does not offer this test. I only knew to request it because of the girls on this board. We all learn so much from each other here. I hope Tues comes and goes quickly for you so you can begin to move on. I would have made the same decision. ((HUGS)))
I am so so sorry. What a horrible thing to go through, I can't even imagine. *hugs*
My doctor didn't even ask if I wanted the NT scan, I also only knew from this board to request one so it's a very good PSA and a test I plan to do every time
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Beth, my heart aches for you and your family. I'm thinking of you during this difficult time.
Thank you for taking the time to write this. I know that it's going to help other women.
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Beth, I am so sorry. When you posted the other day, I thought you were only a few weeks along. Something like this is just heartbreaking. I am so so sorry.
Be strong.
You are very brave for sharing this with us Beth, my heart goes out to you and your family.
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Beth,
first of all, i want to let you know how sorry i am for what you're going through. i can honestly say i know what you are feeling because i've been there. we terminated in july of 2005 with a different diagnosis, but nonetheless it was just as hard a decision. to this day i think about my little boy, but time has made it easier. one of the more difficult things i went through at the time was finding support. i felt so alone, even though my whole family and all my friends supported me and gave me love at that time, i still felt like i was the only one in the world going through this. i wasn't, of course, and i was fortunate enough to find the BEST online support group ever. i made it through those horrible months with their support. if you are interested, go to www.aheartbreakingchoice.com. there are stories of other women who have had to make a choice like yours for similar if not the same diagnosis. if you scroll down the page to the discussion board, i encourage you to join, as it is where you can find so much support and friendship. if you have any questions, or just want to talk/chat, please don't hesitate to message me or email me at carolina414 at gmail dot com.
big hugs for you, and again, i am so sorry.
Carol