She had a puppy dog back pack...

armourall

I stopped to visit my MIL at her work (a pro-life clinic) and while I was there one of her clients came in for her monthly appointment, her shoes and her hands were both drawn all over with a blue pen, she had her hair in low pig tails, and she had a puppy dog back pack. I didn't make any comments or faces (women are supposed to feel secure there not judged) but I think my MIL knew what I was thinking. When the girl went in for her appt. my MIL said she was 14, she was keeping her son (her grandma is going to help her raise him) and the 15 year old father left her last week      It made me so sad.

B!tchBeckman

while it is sad-

those are the consequences she has to come to terms with. kids that age shouldnt be having sex unless they can handle what goes along with it... where was the education on both of their parts? im not trying to snark (surprisingly) but I have a hard time feeling sorry for teenage girls who get knocked up...

armourall

B!tchBeckman:

while it is sad-

those are the consequences she has to come to terms with. kids that age shouldnt be having sex unless they can handle what goes along with it... where was the education on both of their parts? im not trying to snark (surprisingly) but I have a hard time feeling sorry for teenage girls who get knocked up...

No I agree, It was more for the situation of the child then for the girl herself, the whole situation just seemed so sad... the girl was still such a little kid.

beachykeen1723

I'm glad she has her grandmother's support. I feel really sad for everyone involved there. Your mom must have such a strong heart to experience those situations every day!

lspinman

B!tchBeckman:

while it is sad-

those are the consequences she has to come to terms with. kids that age shouldnt be having sex unless they can handle what goes along with it... where was the education on both of their parts? im not trying to snark (surprisingly) but I have a hard time feeling sorry for teenage girls who get knocked up...

I was a teenage girl who got knocked up and while I could empathize with the situation I actually agree with the pp.  I know that there are choices involved and I made the wrong ones myself so I dont feel sorry for others who also make bad choices.

I gave the baby up for adoption and to this day I know that was the right decision.  There was a sequence of bad choices that led to that good one! 

I have also done a lot of work with teenagers in my adult life to educate them on teenage sex.  

I have had to live the last 12 years with the consequences of my teenage actions and bad choices!  This girl is so lucky to have support and hopefully she take this and learns and grows.

HRALFS

This is hard for me because I have a 13yr old step daughter and cannot imagine her having sex anytime soon. She is still a little girl to me.

I am not sure if its my place but I feel like I should talk to her about sex soon since I know her mother may not. But I am also not ready to be a first time mom and then also a grandma anytime soon. Communication has to be a key role though in trying to prevent teen pregnancy.

armourall

cmeon_the_water:

A 14yo girl is still a child with an immature brain, thought processes, and decision making skills. A great number of girls who start sex at that age (like myself) were sexually abused (like myself). It's a much more complicated situation than "you should have known better- now, deal with the consequences".

And I do feel that it's appropriate to be sad for both the teenager who is bound to experience some things that she shouldn't have to at this age- and her child. A pregnant 14yo is a failure of our entire society.

Not to disagree but why is it inappropriate to be sad that society has failed these individuals?

mandaphilly

This probably isn't my post to be in, but I'm 17 and pregnant. I'm aware that my life will feel very limited now but I'm doing the best I can to give my daughter lots of opportunities. I, on the other hand, am against teenage pregnancy in my own way. NOT to be hypocritical, which it probably sounds like I am. But I'm experiencing it, and at times it's not all fun and games. It takes a strong person to raise a child when they are considered a child themselves, and I give power to girls out there who were young and got pregnant and had a baby and still proceeded to do something with their life. In my opinion, maybe I shouldn't of lost my virginity at 16 years old, but I did. I also feel my maturity level was a lot higher than this 14 year old girls' was.

Now, because I'm going through it I find it selfish for a lot of girls I know becoming pregnant now, like it is some kind of trend. It pisses me off. My best friend just got pregnant a month ago, when I told her from the beginning to be careful cause it's not what it's all cracked up to me when you're still 17. Of course she doesn't listen and got knocked up. Before, she wanted a baby so bad, but her pregnancy so far she's been MISERABLE i can't deal with her. I tell her all the time "The joys of Pregnancy!" She should of listened to me because I'm going through it first hand. I now have other friends buying friggen fertility tests at the drugstore to see if they can get pregnant. One of them is standing on her head, legit. I'm so aggravated, i'm starting to isolate myself from them.

Teenage pregnancy should NOT become a trend like it already is starting to.

That's all, flame away.

armourall

cmeon_the_water:

armourall:

cmeon_the_water:

A 14yo girl is still a child with an immature brain, thought processes, and decision making skills. A great number of girls who start sex at that age (like myself) were sexually abused (like myself). It's a much more complicated situation than "you should have known better- now, deal with the consequences".

And I do feel that it's appropriate to be sad for both the teenager who is bound to experience some things that she shouldn't have to at this age- and her child. A pregnant 14yo is a failure of our entire society.

Not to disagree but why is it inappropriate to be sad that society has failed these individuals?

Where do I say that at all?

I'm sorry, I read that wrong and was very confused. I've been typing contracts all day and my eyes hurt now, I did not take the time to read your post very thoroughly.

armourall

mandaphilly:

This probably isn't my post to be in, but I'm 17 and pregnant. I'm aware that my life will feel very limited now but I'm doing the best I can to give my daughter lots of opportunities. I, on the other hand, am against teenage pregnancy in my own way. NOT to be hypocritical, which it probably sounds like I am. But I'm experiencing it, and at times it's not all fun and games. It takes a strong person to raise a child when they are considered a child themselves, and I give power to girls out there who were young and got pregnant and had a baby and still proceeded to do something with their life. In my opinion, maybe I shouldn't of lost my virginity at 16 years old, but I did. I also feel my maturity level was a lot higher than this 14 year old girls' was.

Now, because I'm going through it I find it selfish for a lot of girls I know becoming pregnant now, like it is some kind of trend. It pisses me off. My best friend just got pregnant a month ago, when I told her from the beginning to be careful cause it's not what it's all cracked up to me when you're still 17. Of course she doesn't listen and got knocked up. Before, she wanted a baby so bad, but her pregnancy so far she's been MISERABLE i can't deal with her. I tell her all the time "The joys of Pregnancy!" She should of listened to me because I'm going through it first hand. I now have other friends buying friggen fertility tests at the drugstore to see if they can get pregnant. One of them is standing on her head, legit. I'm so aggravated, i'm starting to isolate myself from them.

Teenage pregnancy should NOT become a trend like it already is starting to.

That's all, flame away.

I don't think anyone should flame you. You are taking responsibility for your actions. Everyone makes bad choices, just some bad choices are more public (like being pregnant as a teenager), it doesn't make them worse or better choices. I'm sure everyone has made an equally "bad choice" whether they want to admit it or not.

mandaphilly

armourall:

mandaphilly:

This probably isn't my post to be in, but I'm 17 and pregnant. I'm aware that my life will feel very limited now but I'm doing the best I can to give my daughter lots of opportunities. I, on the other hand, am against teenage pregnancy in my own way. NOT to be hypocritical, which it probably sounds like I am. But I'm experiencing it, and at times it's not all fun and games. It takes a strong person to raise a child when they are considered a child themselves, and I give power to girls out there who were young and got pregnant and had a baby and still proceeded to do something with their life. In my opinion, maybe I shouldn't of lost my virginity at 16 years old, but I did. I also feel my maturity level was a lot higher than this 14 year old girls' was.

Now, because I'm going through it I find it selfish for a lot of girls I know becoming pregnant now, like it is some kind of trend. It pisses me off. My best friend just got pregnant a month ago, when I told her from the beginning to be careful cause it's not what it's all cracked up to me when you're still 17. Of course she doesn't listen and got knocked up. Before, she wanted a baby so bad, but her pregnancy so far she's been MISERABLE i can't deal with her. I tell her all the time "The joys of Pregnancy!" She should of listened to me because I'm going through it first hand. I now have other friends buying friggen fertility tests at the drugstore to see if they can get pregnant. One of them is standing on her head, legit. I'm so aggravated, i'm starting to isolate myself from them.

Teenage pregnancy should NOT become a trend like it already is starting to.

That's all, flame away.

I don't think anyone should flame you. You are taking responsibility for your actions. Everyone makes bad choices, just some bad choices are more public (like being pregnant as a teenager), it doesn't make them worse or better choices. I'm sure everyone has made an equally "bad choice" whether they want to admit it or not.

 

Thanks! I've come a longgg way since the beginning of my pregnancy though, but I don't think I had this poor girl's mentality. For a while, it was all about me, then one day I woke up. Which I'm glad cause I look back and I was just like WTF was I thinking?