Why do people always say....

Dufflings09

"Hate to tell you but it gets worse from here"

I hate when people say this.  Is it some type of hidden anger that makes them say these things. 

I am not dense, I understand that our little guy is getting bigger, and bigger and I will be more uncomfortable each week as I move along.    But why do people feel the need to remind me that things aren't going to look up for awhile - can't they just say something like "it will be better soon". 

Don't ask if I am "feeling OK" and then have me say "all is good except for the out of breath feeling" and then give me the same dipshitz line of "hate to tell you but it gets worse from here."

 Vent over - hatred still a little high though.

lefirebug

I know... the "just you wait" comments are always frustrating.

nicolebuchalla

I understand this completely. I consider myself to be feeling pretty well still, but people are almost taking bets on when I'll "break" and freak out from being miserable. I know things get worse before it'll get better, but I'm doing okay for now!

margauxlicious

I get that a lot.  It's getting very old!

Bonzer

I dont' think it's so much to be a shiiit cloud on your misery parade, but more or less to kind of gently say, " oh, you're miserable now? You might want to try and suck it up a little because this is actually the easy part"

 

I dont think that they think you don't realize that, but it's a gentle reminder perhaps that if you are already complaining and still have 2-3 months to go, you might want to refrain because it's going to get real old come week 39-40-41

ellemoney:)

I hate when people ask you how you're feeling only to give you their opinion at the end. Don't ask if you just wanted to tell me what you wanted to say!?

That's why now I usually just say "Good" or "fine" or "ok" instead of giving details. ?

Liss_37

lefirebug:

I know... the "just you wait" comments are always frustrating.

I want to stab the "just you wait" people in the eye with a fork.

wnk1029

Wait... you mean, after my time being "blissfully pregnant" is over, I'll actually have to give birth AND THEN feed, care for, and raise a KID!?!?!?

This is not what I signed up for!

 

 

maze_bright

Agreed. Especially with the fork comment above.

vmm0016

ellemoney:):

I hate when people ask you how you're feeling only to give you their opinion at the end. Don't ask if you just wanted to tell me what you wanted to say! 

That's why now I usually just say "Good" or "fine" or "ok" instead of giving details.  

I hate the how are you feeling question!  When I say good, people tell me really or just wait.  Can you give me a break people?!

bentpinkies

Drives me crazy, too. Everyone has bad days - those nights when you just can't get comfortable, those rib and pelvic pains, the heartburn, etc.  Some days are worse than others and it drives me absolutely batsh!t crazy when someone makes a comment about being uncomfortable (which I think is totally warranted in the 3rd tri) and people jump all over her because she still has several weeks to go. 

Yes, she has several weeks to go and it's probably going to get worse before it gets better, but that doesn't mean she's not uncomfortable now.  Don't we ALWAYS say on this board that every baby and every pregnancy is different?  Then, how does anyone know exactlyhow anyone else feels at any moment or how she is going to feel in a few weeks?

 

 

sara_smile

Word. 

1. If you "hate to say it" then DON'T!

2. Will I ever be pregnant enough to be "allowed" to feel exactly how I'm feeling? (Oh, he's NOT big enough at 32 weeks to be causing me to feel out of breath?) Does the pain only count at 39 weeks or something?

pregali80

sara_smile:

Word. 

1. If you "hate to say it" then DON'T!

2. Will I ever be pregnant enough to be "allowed" to feel exactly how I'm feeling? (Oh, he's NOT big enough at 32 weeks to be causing me to feel out of breath?) Does the pain only count at 39 weeks or something?

Amen

dottymobo

I hate to say it, but....

No really, I understand, because there is always someone saying that, and there always will be... wait until he's born/going through a growth spurt/teething/going to school/dating/etc.   It's pointless to say it and minimizes what other people are going through.

But still, I can almost guarantee that you'll think it at some point, probably even about yourself!  Hopefully you'll just remember to keep your mouth shut, and cut everyone some slack, as should we all.

nowayimpreggo

lisswastaken:

lefirebug:

I know... the "just you wait" comments are always frustrating.

I want to stab the "just you wait" people in the eye with a fork.

Haha.  Couldn't have said it better.