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Gotta Vent... Sorry!
I am soo not the type of person to share my personal feelings with a bunch of strangers but today I have to get it all off my chest!! So please bare with me... cuz here comes my whining! I am currently a SAHM, I was laid off from work WHILE i was on maternity leave. I have been looking for a job since April and still have not found anything. I'm basically not even limiting myself to field or pay or distance. I just want something. My DH works out of town ALL the time. He's gone for 3 weeks out of the month. He has given me so much grief lately about not working. Tells me I'm lazy and dont do ***. Am I wrong for being angry?? Apparently he thinks the house cleans itself and his laundry magically washes itself! I cook dinner everynight I take care of our kid every day every night by MYSELF!! No I don't have a paying job right now, but by no means do I sit on my ass all day and do nothing! Sad thing is I know that when I do go back to work (finger crossed its soon) I'm going to be working 40+ hours a week and still taking care of everything at home by myself. I know there are women out there who are truly on their own and I totally respect ya'll because this is not easy by any means and I'm not even WORKING right now!! My mom feels I've just got a case of the post baby blues? IDK?? I just feel pretty unappreciated for the things that I do.. do. Grrrrrr
Alright ladies well thanks for listening to me whine! Appreciate it! haha
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Re: Gotta Vent... Sorry!
Im sorry. DHs can be D-bags.
I say you really sit on your a$$ for a few days so he can see dishes pile up, laundry sit there and so on.. give him an idea of everything you do.
and then there were 3...
THIS!!!!
DH kinda changed his tune when he ran outta underwear ....
He bitches about no dinner anymore .... I told him lets see him do all the house chores and take care of the twins and try to get dinner done when kids are crying
I'm sorry, but your DH sounds like he doesn't have a clue. If I were you, I would plan a girl days out and leave your LO with him for an entire day. That way, maybe he'll have an inkling of appreciation for what you do all day. At the very least, he will not be calling you lazy.
Not to mention, unless he's living under a rock, he knows that the economy sucks and getting a job isn't easy.
Good luck with looking for a job!
Oh, you may not be working outside the home, but you ARE working. And you may not be getting paid money, either, but I wish you'd at least be getting paid in appreciative words. It doesn't sound like baby blues to me (that term pisses me off--like when people tell you you must be on your period if you have an issue with something they're saying/doing)
I also don't think you're whining--I think you're venting, and you have every right to do so. Have you talked to your DH about how much daycare would cost? You ARE saving that money by being at home. Have you guys looked at the cost of daycare vs. how much you'd be bringing in by working? It could be that you'd break even. Even if you guys would be making a little bit of money after the added cost of daycare, is it worth it being away from your DD and away from the house? ('Cause that means you'd have less time to get housework done, too.)
You said you respect women who're on their own--honey, you ARE on your own most of the time. And I feel some of your pain--DH used to travel a lot (2-3 weeks a month) before we had DD, and THAT was hard. I can't imagine what it would be like if he did that much travel now.
Not sure I can give any more constructive advice, since I, too, am pissed at DH, but I sure like the first poster's reply.