F/U: Second Baby Shower Post

abpdjs

Remember when I posted about my gift grabby sil having a second baby shower.  I am just now looking at the invite for the shower next week and noticed that she is registered?!  So I look up the registery, this woman is registered for very expensive items (we are talking, travel/stroller systems/breast pumps......oh yeah the works), Things mom's of first babies would register for.  She has this stuff!  PLUS!  she registered for the bumboo seat I let her borrow, wtf?

Really?   Seriously?!  I.CAN'T.STAND.HER.  I think I am just going to give a 10 dollar gift card.  Do you think that would be bad?

teakum

Send it girl!

soontobecapek

i registered but not for a breast pump... I have one... but a new infant seat and playard because mine were recalled and if nobody gets them I like having a list of things I have to buy (plus completion coupon) a new crib cuz DS is still in his... a new stroller cuz I need a double... but like I said... mostly for the coupon... and because my mom asked me to

abpdjs

soontobecapek:

i registered but not for a breast pump... I have one... but a new infant seat and playard because mine were recalled and if nobody gets them I like having a list of things I have to buy (plus completion coupon) a new crib cuz DS is still in his... a new stroller cuz I need a double... but like I said... mostly for the coupon... and because my mom asked me to

my issue is i know she has this stuff from her dd (who is now 5) and she did not register for a double stroller b/c she doesn't need one but apparently she needs a brand new travel system........b/c her old one is.....hhhhmmm.....old.

howleyshell

Urgh...

Seriously bugs me!!

I wonder what her show rate will be like?

You wouldn't catch me dead at that shower.

She's a gift grabber for sure! 

soontobecapek

abpdjs:

soontobecapek:

i registered but not for a breast pump... I have one... but a new infant seat and playard because mine were recalled and if nobody gets them I like having a list of things I have to buy (plus completion coupon) a new crib cuz DS is still in his... a new stroller cuz I need a double... but like I said... mostly for the coupon... and because my mom asked me to

my issue is i know she has this stuff from her dd (who is now 5) and she did not register for a double stroller b/c she doesn't need one but apparently she needs a brand new travel system........b/c her old one is.....hhhhmmm.....old.

haha now i get it... i missed your OP, that's like me getting new bottles and a new bebe pod just cuz DS used them...

ridesbuttons

Bizzare to have a second baby shower and register.  I've never, ever been invited to one and I've never heard of one occurring in real life.

The car seat thing I get, as those expire after 5 years.  But why you have to ask your friends/family to buy it for you is beyond me.  Maybe she's going to resell the stuff on ebay.

Pick out the cheapest thing on the registery.  And try to think of the baby and not your SIL.

shawns_bride

I am not opposed to 2nd baby showers, although I've never personally been invited to one! But it is weird that she registered for all that stuff again. $10 G/C sounds good to me!

kaydee_2008

I didnt want one but i'm getting another shower. I need everything though. I didnt have much with Rylee and what i had I geave to friends that had babies. I'm so worried to have another shower. I am having nightmares already that i'm there and no one shows up again...

neverblushed

kaydee_2008:

I didnt want one but i'm getting another shower. I need everything though. I didnt have much with Rylee and what i had I geave to friends that had babies. I'm so worried to have another shower. I am having nightmares already that i'm there and no one shows up again...

Whoever is throwing it should have made it a surprise, so it would be crystal clear that it's not your idea.

It's not your idea, right????

Dani123

kaydee_2008:

I didnt want one but i'm getting another shower. I need everything though. I didnt have much with Rylee and what i had I geave to friends that had babies. I'm so worried to have another shower. I am having nightmares already that i'm there and no one shows up again...

I didnt have a 2nd "shower" but I did want to acknowledge that she was coming so we just all went to lunch.  All girls, everyone paid their own way and we just gabbed about 2 under 2 and a million other things. It was at Cheesecake Factory.  No gifts was requested but people, of course, still brought stuff, little things, like clothes, etc.  Plus I had 2 girls, maybe diff if I was having a boy but I bought mostly gender neutral for M to avoid this exact issue LOL

kaydee_2008

neverblushed:

kaydee_2008:

I didnt want one but i'm getting another shower. I need everything though. I didnt have much with Rylee and what i had I geave to friends that had babies. I'm so worried to have another shower. I am having nightmares already that i'm there and no one shows up again...

Whoever is throwing it should have made it a surprise, so it would be crystal clear that it's not your idea.

It's not your idea, right????

My MIL is planning it she likes to throw parties. I wanted just a welcome home baby thing when we got home, after I was healed up. Jus so everyone could come see the new baby. If they wanted to bring something that was their choice I was not asking for anything. But since she is throwing me a shower she wants to know what all we need and DH has a HUGE family 100+ on just his dads side. Plus since he is Rylee's SD his family is getting to do all this for the first time. But all the things the OP said were on her SIL's registry are on mine. I have nothing. I was not planning on having more kids for years till I met DH. So i need it all. We were more then happy to buy it ourselves and had fully planned on it. now we are jsut waiting to see what we will need to buy.

abpdjs

kaydee_2008:

neverblushed:

kaydee_2008:

I didnt want one but i'm getting another shower. I need everything though. I didnt have much with Rylee and what i had I geave to friends that had babies. I'm so worried to have another shower. I am having nightmares already that i'm there and no one shows up again...

Whoever is throwing it should have made it a surprise, so it would be crystal clear that it's not your idea.

It's not your idea, right????

My MIL is planning it she likes to throw parties. I wanted just a welcome home baby thing when we got home, after I was healed up. Jus so everyone could come see the new baby. If they wanted to bring something that was their choice I was not asking for anything. But since she is throwing me a shower she wants to know what all we need and DH has a HUGE family 100+ on just his dads side. Plus since he is Rylee's SD his family is getting to do all this for the first time. But all the things the OP said were on her SIL's registry are on mine. I have nothing. I was not planning on having more kids for years till I met DH. So i need it all. We were more then happy to buy it ourselves and had fully planned on it. now we are jsut waiting to see what we will need to buy.

i completely get this.  i think my post is more of a vent.  she goes against every grain in my body.  infact, i just found out that she and her dh (my brother) are looking for a house miles aways from my parents b/c she wants to be as far away as possible from my mom (my mother has treated her like a daughter from the start and if it wasn't for my parents they would have been living on the street at many times in the begining when their dd came along).  if i could smack her i would.

 

soontobecapek

 

I'd smack her...

neverblushed

Kaydee2008 --

That's a totally different situation.  Your situation is really a first shower for your H!

Still, I bet it's hard to sit there knowing it's being planned, and wondering what people will think.  Having a surprise shower would have been more merciful!

abpdjs

cmeon_the_water:

I'm definitely not a fan of showers with second babies so close to the first- just always comes across as gift grabby. And personally- I'd do a donation in her name as a gift- doesn't sound like she'd even appreciate the money spent as a gift card, so might as well give the money to someone who will.

what exactly is this and how do you do it?

 

jen5-03

How... odd.

I did register, but only for stuff I needed and I didn't tell anyone - like someone else said it was a list for me and to get the completion coupon. And even then it seriously only has 5 items on it!

I did end up having a suprise baby shower last weekend, but it was a casserole shower and everybody brought me food for my freezer or a restaurant giftcard

So there's an idea - make her a lasagna and call it done!

Pesky

I registered for the completion coupons but did not make my registries public.  I would've been too embarassed anyway -- half of the stuff on the Target registry was for DD or us, including a ton of beer!!

HawaiiBrideGrm

jen5/03:

How... odd.

I did register, but only for stuff I needed and I didn't tell anyone - like someone else said it was a list for me and to get the completion coupon. And even then it seriously only has 5 items on it!

I did end up having a suprise baby shower last weekend, but it was a casserole shower and everybody brought me food for my freezer or a restaurant giftcard

So there's an idea - make her a lasagna and call it done!

That is an absolutely brilliant idea! I love that!!!! Food was the one thing we lacked our 1st 2 weeks of being parents. OMG I lost like 30 lbs in the 1st 9 days postpartum. Not good.