Not sure I want to get pg again.

MayDayGirl · September 2009

I am SOOOO grateful I got to experience pregnancy, and childbirth... I truly truly am. However I'm NOT sure I want to do it again. It was awful. I put on a good face throughout it but the further I am from being pg, the more I am being honest with myself that i just didn't like it, it was the HARDEST thing I ever have done. Every day I was miserable from 22w on.

And I'm not sold on the idea of doing it again.

So Joey and I are moving towards adoption for baby #2! We have a meeting with the agency we hope to use in less than two weeks! We are so excited and I am so happy that I am 110% ok with not being pg again (at least in this point in life, who knows it could change).

Just wanted to update you!

oct11bride03 · September 2009

That's great!! Wishing you tons of luck with the process.

LisaandBryan · September 2009

I think that's a wonderful and honest decisiosn. I hope you find a good agency this time! I wish you lots of luck on the adoption process and can't to hear all abou teh process as you go through it!

Mrs.LisaP · September 2009

I think thats a wonderful idea!

lnle · September 2009

It's so great that you can be honest about what you need/want and I hope that you find baby #2 very soon!!!

GuitaristsGirl · September 2009

I think its wonderful that you're being so honest with yourself and that you and Joey have found a path that will hopefully work best for you and your family. And so exciting that you have been able to get the ball rolling already! Hope everything goes smoothly and will be looking for an update after your meeting.

JGirl2005 · September 2009

I had a feeling you felt like this. I could just read it -between the lines- and figured after the foster son thing ended you would move to adoption.

It is OK to feel like this and you are normal. A few of us didn't have the joys of pregnancy that ALL experience especially the fertile myrtles.

So happy you have a plan! I think you and J need to decide what is best for your family. I would totally adopt but DH is not on board.

mrsolsenk12 · September 2009

That is wonderful! It is great that you are at peace with your decision.

tapgirl · September 2009

I think that is a great decision. We have yet to make it all the way through this pregnancy, but DH and I have already tossed around the idea of adopting #2, for some of the same reasons you mentioned. We also aren't sure we want to gamble on IVF again and go through all that involves physically and mentally, especially since I'll be at least 38 before we would consider trying again.

GL with your decision. I think that is great!

futrkingsley · September 2009

I am grateful I got to experience pregnancy and all the joy that it brings but I'm not itching to sign up for another go either. Mine sucked from the very beginning to the surgical end and the recovery was gruesome. And I can't imagine doing bedrest again with a toddler added to the mix. Every time I think about it I just want to say no. But for us, that means the DS would be an only child. We are not in a position to adopt right now and I'm not sure I'm up for it. But having one child is infinitely better than having none so I"m okay either way.

Hope your next adoption attempt is a successful journey for you and your family!

speak-ez · September 2009

I can understand that. I was blessed with a wonderful pregnancy but we're already adopting #2 and waiting to decide on #3. GL with your adoption and the meeting next week!

gabbeyh · September 2009

That is fabulous!!! Congrats on the decision.

Smudges*Mom · September 2009

I totally understand. My pregnancy was, until the end, uneventful. . . but I never felt good and at the end, it all went to hell. I am still not feeling great (my depression has returned, despite being on an antidepressant). Ait is it took IVF to get pregnant and then I was pregnant for nearly 42 weeks (and had to have an emergency c-section), I joke that first I couldn't get pregnant, then I couldn't get UNpregnant!

DH and I have decided that we are "one and done". We were leaning that way anyway, but it is a firm decision now.

Best of luck with the adoption process! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your growing family!

GreenEyedGal · September 2009

That's a lovely decision!

alchris · September 2009

I think this makes so much sense! I believe with complete confidence that you would be a *fabulous* adoptive mother and I think you're just meant to be one.