WWYD: "No gift" baptism

veloelle

One of my good friends is having her DS baptized this weekend. The invite specified no gifts, but I feel weird showing up empty handed.

We were recently at a small GTG and the invite said "just bring your fav drink." We did just that, and the other 2 couples brought desserts and drinks; I felt like a heel w/ DH's 6-pack of beer.

Anyway. I was thinking if they really, really don't want gifts, what about a bouquet of lily's? I was thinking of putting something on the card about having a blessed life?

I just really hate showing up w/ nothing, but want to be considerate.

 

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this is the reason why i think writing "no gifts" is always tacky- b/c it puts people in an even stranger place deciding to follow the "rules" or not - because someone will always bring gifts and make everyone that didn't feel like jerks.

i'd just bring a small gift - a check for the baby or bond. (personally i'm not a fan of bonds but i know some people love them)

Halo79RN

how about cash for baby or a donation in baby's name. 

when dd was baptized we did it at her 1st bday... two birds, one stone... we live away from family ....  so we didn't want to travel back with gifts and she really didn't need a ton , they don't know about gifts at that age... so we did "in lieu of gifts please bring a book to be donated..."  the children's books were donated to a local soup kitchen for the youngsters that frequented that site.    It was a way that people could feel like they were giving a gift and we felt good about it.  

brightning

I think flowers are always appropriate.

Littlejen22

Yeah, I hate the "no gift" because to me it says, "please do not buy a present but give money instead" even if they really did not mean it that way.  I am not sure how close you are and how much you wanted to spend but I would either give a bond (a $50 paper bond would only cost $25), a gift card for BRU or someone that she would buy something for the baby, cash or jewelry which is harder for a boy and a cross especially for a boy is pretty expensive.

Littlejen22

Or I LOVE the idea of buying a stock for the baby but that is not cheap either...from a site like onestock or something like that.