Sex & # of LOs

Telyco

For those of you that want or already have 3 children...I'd like some input!

DH is already hinting at #3...and I have felt confident that 1 of each is perfect and I'm done!  But with his hinting...I wonder if my thinking was premature.

I'm thinking that 2u2 is going to take a lot out of me. Did you (or will you) have #3 because you want more children??...or maybe because you had 2 boys or 2 girls and wanna give one more try for the opposite sex. If we had 2 boys...I'm almost positive I would try for a girl - but just once and mostly so DH would have his Daddy's girl. (Not that I wouldn't want a daughter too but, you KWIM)

Pesky

We're in the debate about #3.  We have one of each now.  If we chose to have another, it wouldn't be because we want another boy or girl, it's really a question of if our family feels complete.  I think the experience of 2u2 depends on the kids and depends on the parents involved.  For me, it's tough.  DS is a bit on the needy side and DD in a needy phase so not always fun, especially if DH is OOT with me working FT.  I think if we do opt for another we will likely make the age gap more like 3 yrs.  It's a great age spread but I don't think I could do it with 3 in the house by myself.  I need DD and DS to be a bit older.

MrsCorbin

I want a large family 5 or 6.  When #1 was born I wanted another baby right away.  When #2 was born I still didn't feel complete.  Now that #3 is here I love it.  We are going to wait 3 or 4 years and have 3 more close together.  DH is happy with any number of kids.

howleyshell

I used to think it was about having a girl.

I remember clearly walking home from the park early this summer and listening to a 10 minute banter of "you tooted.... no YOU tooted.... no YOU TOOTED!!!!" and turning to DH for the gazillionth time saying "We're having a girl.  If we have to adopt to make it happen....we're having a GIRL!!"

DH didn't want another.  We also have a 14 yr old step-son (his from a previous marriage) who lives with us 50% of the time.  Our pocket books are quite spoken for with just the kids we have now.

I had just sold all of my maternity clothes and all of our baby gear making my peace with being "done".  After all... that's the ultimate veto when 1 partner's not on board.  We'd originally agreed on 2 kids before marriage and I wasn't going to pressure him.  It was the "deal" and I intended to stick to my part of it.

Then... a totally surprising shocker "oops" pregnancy when we thought we were doing a darned good job of avoiding.

I know without a doubt that it was a boy.

I started picturing the 3 of them laughing at the dinner table, rustling each others hair as they passed on the stair case, wrestling in the back yard, sending each other to the emergency room, and generally making their own little fraternity out of our house.  And my heart swelled.

And so did DH's. 

Now I'm sure that my desire is about another little person that feels like he's missing from our family and not about wanting a girl.

I'm confident that we couldn't conceive a girl even if we were ever lucky enough to conceive again. 

HarrietNJMommy

I'll give you my opinion since I already have the 3. 

For us, it's not about having "one of each". We always wanted 4 kids. We're now not sure if we're going for #4 for a lot of reasons.

But what I CAN tell you is that having 3 kids close in age (they're all about 1.5 years apart) is NOT easy. It's a logistical nightmare for me as a SAHM. I find that anyone that has 3+ kids and says it's easy, has some kind of help around (nanny, babysitter, parents, etc.) I have none of that. Other than DH (who works all day long), it's me and the kids. Don't get me wrong, I love them and I can't imagine NOT having three, but it's just exhausting right now, and being outnumbered has its challenges.

I'm sure it'll get easier in terms of "neediness" from the kids, but right now, I'm tired, and I get no breaks. Also, DS is EBF and will not take a bottle, so I can't go too far. And he's nowhere near STTN.

We weren't planning on having a third so close. We wanted at least 2-2.5 years between DD#2 and DS. 

Okay, enough venting from me. GL whatever your decision! 

MrsPreK

We do plan on having more....just not this close together in age

shouldbworkin

We have one of each and are probably going to start TTC #3 soon.  I didn't warm up to the idea until recently, even though DH has been talking about it since before #2 was born.  #2 is 2 1/4 now, so definitely not doing 2U2 again.  Most days I'm not sure how I can handle a 3rd, but I still want another child.  Our famiily just doesn't feel complete yet.

katydid2007

we're undecided about going for #3. We're going to see how things go with #2 and then we'll decide.  Either way, I'd like to wait until DS #2 is at least 3 until we start trying again and that puts me at 38 yo. Since I've gotten pregnant twice with hardly trying, I'm confident that it wouldn't be a problem to conceive at that age, I just don't know if another baby will be right for our family.

With that, we are expecting another boy come January.  If we do go for number 3 it would have very little to do with wanting a girl (although it would be nice to have a daughter). It would be more about wanting another baby/child in our lives.  I'm convinced we only make boys!