Nobody else can watch my baby!

FD

I really need help and advice. DD has recently become EXTREMELY attached to me and DH. If anyone (and I mean ANYONE) else holds her, she completely flips out. DH and I are the only ones who can calm her down. I am lucky to be a SAHM, but I would love to have a night out with DH. I just want to be able to leave her for two hours or so and know that she won't be bawling the whole time. What do I do? Any advice? How did you transition after your mat leave to having someone else take care of your LO? I am lucky to have my mom nearby and she would love to watch DD once in a while. My mom and dad see DD pretty often, but that hasn't seemed to help the issue. Is this just a stage? What do I do? I just want two hours!

lkich

Have you tried leaving her with your Mom? She may calm down once you're gone. You can do a practice run, leave her and walk the block - see what happens.

a003vp

I agree with the first poster. You also may want to try to have your mom come over 30 or so minutes and help with Bed time (if its 6-8pm). While your mom does the last of the Bedtime things and puts her to bed, slip away quietly and then when you come home it will be like you never left her, in her mind!

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I agree that you should try a "slip away" tactic - but remember that most babies cry when their parents leave but they almost always can be calmed down eventually and often its faster than you think.

 

jacksjerseygirl

We started a weekend night babysitter when DS was 6 weeks old. I think in and of itself has made it easier for DS to connect with other people more easily than us for his care. 

Although I work mostly from home, we do have a part time nanny. In the beginning DS, for some weird reason, did not like her. But we found that if she shadowed me for a couple of days, and then I shadowed her while caring for DS for a day that he did much better with her.

A friend of mine came over yesterday - her five year old has started all day preschool and because she was a SAHM too her daughter never really had anyone else care for her and she wasn't away from her mom for such a long period of time. Every morning since school started it has been a crying/screamining situation and the mom just has to walk away. She said it is like that with all of the kids who were at home with their moms up until now. 

Point to my story ...  although it is hard to hear LO cry .... I would rather go through it now than at 5 years old. So in your case, I would have the babysitter come a couple of times (you'll have to pay them) and just shadow and play with baby with you. This way  you can at least be reassured that even though LO may be cry when you leave that the babysitter knows how to fully care for LO. I also bet that the more times you do this - there may be crying at first but shortly after LO will settle down and forget about it. 

Good luck