Our kid will be nameless!

MrsJWeaver

DH doesn't like my name choices because he thinks they are too unusual.  I don't like his because I think they are too vanilla.                                      I want to use my maiden name as a source for the middle name of our first child.  I'm not terribly set on this but I think it would be a nice tradition to start.  My mom used her maiden name for my middle name.

DH choice for son:  Michael or Jake                                                       My choice:  Liam, Declan, Cooper, I'm even ok with Jake

The middle name for a boy would be Steven.

DH just doesn't like anything I pick for a girl.                                           My choice:  Alexa, Layla, Olivia, Emma, Camille.  The middle name would be Eve.

I know we have 6 months to decide but I'm tired of the endless debates. 

losmitty

It sounds like you have the same conversations I have with my DH. But on the other hand,  the names you have mentioned as your selections aren't all that strange at all. I can almost guarantee, with the exception of Declan and MAYBE Camille, you can find any of those names on this board any day of the week. Ironically, you may not see Michael on here unless it's posted as a MN. :P For us this is a reason I have reconsidered DH's choices. Maybe, Rachel (however blan it may be) it actually less common than Leila... Weird!

MrsJWeaver

I'm totally with you.  I don't think my names are too out there because I hear them on here all the time.  On the other hand I just don't like the fact that there are a ton of Michaels that I know.  DH has 3 in his family including his stepdad.  I just want something not so plain.

timmysgal1

you *hopefully* (knock on wood) still have over half of your pregnancy to pick a name.  The likelyhood is that your H might come around to liking the names you like.  Why not buy a baby names book and each have a different color highlighter and pass it back and forth highlighting names you like, and then discuss then and pick a few names every week or so that you like, compile a master list, and go from there.

losmitty

MrsJWeaver:

I'm totally with you.  I don't think my names are too out there because I hear them on here all the time.  On the other hand I just don't like the fact that there are a ton of Michaels that I know.  DH has 3 in his family including his stepdad.  I just want something not so plain.

Well, to start with, prehaps you can cross Michael off the list just to "minimize family confusion"... After that, come up with a good compromise. Maybe before you find out the sex, say something like, he has 80% of the say so if it a boy, and you have that much say so if it's a girl. Or just print off a post or two on here and show him how popular some of these names are. Maybe he just doesn't want his child to be a weirdo with a name no one has heard of. :P

qtpa2t

Well, while not bizarre for someone who reads this board, your name choices for boys are unusual for your average person (though they are very trendy right now).  How about naming a boy William and calling him Liam?  That gives you your name choice while allowing your husband a more traditional name.  If you're okay with Jake, that's an option, too.  

Your girl choices aren't too out there.  You didn't mention if he had any preferences.

You could also leave it such that he could choose the boy, you get to choose the girl and that's that. 

Owlison

timmysgal1:

you *hopefully* (knock on wood) still have over half of your pregnancy to pick a name.  The likelyhood is that your H might come around to liking the names you like.  Why not buy a baby names book and each have a different color highlighter and pass it back and forth highlighting names you like, and then discuss then and pick a few names every week or so that you like, compile a master list, and go from there.

 Excellent advice.